“The unthankful heart discovers no mercies; but the thankful heart will find, in every hour, some heavenly blessings.” – Henry Ward Beecher
If you want to attain long-lasting bliss in your relationship, then you got to make an effort. There is this thing about love – it doesn’t have an infinite source. If you will keep neglecting your partner and won’t find a way to replenish your love with time, then it would only fade away. Every relationship is a game of equals. You are supposed to walk an extra mile for your partner and take a chance on love. You have to take a leap of faith and meet them halfway. But you know what? It is always worth it. The moment you lock them in your arms and create those everlasting memories with them, you realize that all the hardship that you have faced in your life was worth it. Your love is always worth it!
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Though, too often we don’t let ourselves cherish what we have. We get overly occupied with our future and don’t live in our present. We stop being grateful to our partner, knowing that they would always be there by our side. We don’t forgive them for their mistakes and keep looking at their flaws in order to have an upper hand in the relationship. Needless to say, it never works out in the end.
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If you would like to attain lasting relationship satisfaction, then you need to let your partner know how much you care for them. You need to replenish your source of love and keep rediscovering your significant other in this journey. The two of you were different when you fell in love with each. With time, you have to accept the change in your life and fall in love with your partner all over again. It might be tough in the beginning, but it certainly is the best thing about life. As you grow together, you would get a chance to fall in love with your partner time and time again. This can never be attained without having gratitude and forgiveness in your relationship.
A little gratitude can make a lot of difference in your life.
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Too often, we get obsessed with the idea of our future that we don’t get time to stop and enjoy what we already have in our present. Take it one step at a time and start by being thankful for everything in your life – including your partner. Let them know how much you love them. Gratitude can provide a solution to almost every problem of yours. If you are having a rough patch in your relationship, show your partner how thankful you are for all the little things they do for you. Simply let them know how their presence has made an impactful difference in your life, and you would surely be able to make things right.
Gradually, as you would realize their worth, you will become more passionate in your relationship. A little gratitude will help you overlook their flaws. Instead, you would focus on the good part. You would realize that it is part of the whole package. Instead of focusing on your differences, you will make them your strength. You will start valuing your partner and won’t take them for granted.
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It will make you realize that unlike things, we can’t replace people. You would start seeing everything from a whole new perspective. Not just those big life-changing or larger than life gestures, you would start noticing those little things that your partner does for you. It has been scientifically proven that a little gratitude can bring a major change in our world. You would start looking at your life with a whole new perspective. A recent research by the University of Texas showcased how gratitude can help people come out of depression and attain relationship satisfaction as well.
Gratitude and forgiveness will enhance the quality of your life and will let you attain a perfect balance. You would stop taking things for granted and will realize how important your significant other is for you. You would never let go of your partner for anything at all and will try to push your limits to make things right. Though, forgiveness is also of utmost importance to let go of your past and enjoy what you have in your present.
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Too many times, we don’t let go of our past for numerous reasons. Whether it’s a failed relationship or a bad behavior, we keep clinging on to it for years. When it comes to any relationship, you can’t simply hold onto your anger or even resentment like that. The two of you should be a well-equipped machine as you are supposed to have a blind trust on your partner. Yes, we all make mistakes and chances are that your partner must have said or done something in the past to hurt you as well. But you can’t simply hold on to that one moment and let it define the entire course of your relationship.
Sometimes, it can take years to forgive someone. But that’s the thing. Do you really have years to crib about something? Can you really spend your whole love having a grudge against your own partner? Life is too long to sustain grudges and too short to love someone. The moment you forgive them, you would realize that you have a limited span of time with them. True love is for immortals and all you can have is just a glimpse of it. Don’t let it all pass you by when you are busy looking flaws in your partner.
Forgive quickly, but don’t forget the lesson learned from your mistakes. Your partner will hurt you in the future. Chances are that you are going to say or do something wrong as well. Instead of wasting your precious time, move past your argument. Reach a conclusion and ensure that you never make the same mistake again. Keep learning new things to have an ideal relationship.
You can’t attain a fulfilling relationship without forgiving yourself as well. Too many times, we forgive others for even the most disastrous of mistakes, but take an entire lifetime to forgive ourselves.
“Find what you love and let it kill you” – Charles Bukowski
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It is true. We often sabotage our relationship and don’t allow ourselves to be happy. We believe that we are not worthy of being happy and that our entire world will collapse if we take a chance on love.
You need to make yourself understand that everyone in this world makes some or other kind of mistakes. To err is human, to forgive divine. Don’t spend your entire life trying to attain something mediocre, when you can be great – when you can be divine. Start forgiving people and surpass their flaws. When it comes to your partner, you should always accept them for who they are. Let go of the hurt that they have caused you in the past. You would be amazed to see the power of forgiveness. In the process of forgiving others, you would be able to make peace with yourself.
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The moment you forgive your partner, you would overcome all those barriers that were created by the two of you in your relationship. Forgiveness and gratitude are the pillars of any relationship – without them, you can never attain the kind of relationship satisfaction that almost everyone wants. Your life would always be full of regret and resentment. You would feel a little incomplete without forgiving your partner or yourself. You would always carry the weight of an entire world on your shoulders and that will never let you love someone – not even yourself. It will never let you live. Introspect a little and ask yourself these hard-hitting questions.
When was the last time you told your partner how much you care about them? Are you still holding a grudge for something they said or did a while back? Did you notice all those small things they do for you without getting acknowledged?
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Life is short. Make the best out it as long as you can. What you have right now, might all be gone tomorrow. Be thankful for what you have and don’t let any argument take away the sheer essence of your relationship. Let your partner know that you are in this for the long haul with your words. Don’t just think about it. You need to let them know each and everything by shaping your feelings in the right kind of words.
I love you. I can’t live without you. You make me complete. Thank you, for being there. I need you. I always did and I always will.
Too often, we don’t say the right words. We only let time pass us by without giving us a chance to express our emotions. Don’t make the same mistake again. You need to make some time to let your partner know what they mean to you. Do it right now – right away. Steal a moment of time. Kiss them as if it is the last gesture of your life. Let them know that they have made a difference in your world. All you have is right now. This moment. Make the most out of it!
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