“People always fall in love with the most perfect aspects of each other’s personalities. Who wouldn’t? Anybody can love the most wonderful parts of another person. But that’s not the clever trick. The really clever trick is this: Can you accept the flaws? Can you look at your partner’s faults honestly and say, ‘I can work around that. I can make something out of it.’? Because the good stuff is always going to be there, and it’s always going to pretty and sparkly, but the crap underneath can ruin you.” ― Elizabeth Gilbert
Dating is a twisted game. But if every time you took a hit you quit the ring, you’d never be able to bounce back as an evolved player. Dating mistakes are all the more reason to embrace your failure and make peace with the inevitable. Unlike ‘dating’ in the movies, dating in real life is full of ups and downs (more downs than ups, if we were being honest) and it takes real courage to throw oneself back into the big, bad world of ‘dating’ once it has brought you down with an epic fail- all those dating mistakes that made you feel embarrassed, stupid or even wrong to go back in. But here’s the thing about the game- you can keep count of your failures as long as it does not wreck your belief in winning!
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Although if you wish to learn, you could also go the ‘prevention-is-better-than-cure’ route. Dodge the dating mistakes you are guilty of and make dating a game you don’t lose at. Here’s handy help from the stars:
Aries (March 21 – April 19)
You may always keep your partner vying for attention. The game may get extremely tedious and your partner may not be willing to keep pace. You need to understand that it is okay to let go of the rules in your head and simply enjoy dating for what it is.
Taurus (April 20 – May 20)
You tend to be drawn in by someone’s ‘best behavior’ as is natural on the first few dates and spiral into an inescapable abyss after you see them for who they really are. Your interest quickly wanes and life becomes a drag. So, you need to steer clear of the facades- as people are wont to put up when they are seeing you for a date.
Gemini (May 21 – June 20)
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You should watch out for your tendency to be taken by those who share in your enthusiasm for talk. Because not every kind of talking is ‘conversation.’ He could be on a manic rant, a crib-spree or simply, on a never-give-up mission of talking your ear off- and we all know you deserve better than that! Don’t put up with it because, hey, he can talk! Tell him off on his foul case of verbal diarrhea.
Cancer (June 21 – July 22)
Your extremely giving and caring nature tends to strike you out and send you straight into the inescapable friend zone. Do not care yourself into the dreaded pit because we all know, you cannot care your way out! Not a chance. So, stop being such a darned good empath that he can only see a ‘trustworthy friend’ in you!
Leo (July 23 – Aug. 22)
You seem to have made a habit of going after the ‘bad boy.’ And then, you complain about him not being ‘nice!’ Well, get your heart and mind in the right place and do not chase after the wrong guy because there’s no way he is going to turn into the ‘right one.’
Virgo (Aug. 23 – Sept. 22)
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Your problem in life is to overanalyze every trivial, insignificant detail about a person. I mean, sure, some things are best gauged when your mind is working and your insides aren’t gooey mush – but to end things prematurely because you can’t stand the color of their dress or the way they move their hands when talking is pushing it too far! So, stop the incessant critical analysis and seize the day, erm, date!
Libra (Sept. 23 – Oct. 22)
You cannot stop bringing your past into your present. You need to drag history into the ‘story’ you are attempting to build and that is a serious turn-off. Nobody wants to go out on a date with someone who is constantly talking of their ex! Stop with the annoying mistake right away or ‘dating’ itself would turn into a thing of the past!
Scorpio (Oct. 23 – Nov. 21)
You have a tendency to rush things. Do not walk into a first date wondering if you two may make cute kids together! Let things take their own natural course. Rushing things is only going to wreck matters, so don’t force him into getting too serious, too soon.
Sagittarius (Nov. 22 – Dec. 21)
You feel the need to entertain and come off as not-boring so strongly that you may be cutting out all conversation and putting on a one-man show. Try to leave the scope for your date to get a word in and possibly, more.
Capricorn (Dec. 22 – Jan. 19)
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You tend to plan every little detail about your date and when things do not go exactly as planned, you freak out. However, you may want to leave some of the planning to your date- so you aren’t under too much pressure and get nervous.
Aquarius (Jan. 20 – Feb. 18)
You tend to go full-stalker mode before the date and not only do you dig up details about your date on social media, professional networks or from any connections you can find- but you use them to draw out confessions and admissions on the actual date itself. Slow your roll or you may simply scare him off!
Pisces (Feb. 19 – March 20)
You tend to keep dwelling on the hope that the date may bring in the possibility of something more. You find it difficult to move on to the next date without knowing for certain that the last one isn’t going anywhere. You need to stop giving other people so much power over the course of your life and take charge.
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