“You can spend minutes, hours, days, weeks, or even months over-analyzing a situation; trying to put the pieces together, justifying what could’ve, would’ve happened… or you can just leave the pieces on the floor and move the f*ck on.”
― Tupac Shakur
How do you get over him? Maybe you watch the darkness take his form and wish the black away…maybe you reimagine your kisses in your dreams and wake up to an empty bed…maybe you simply cry yourself to everything, everyday. But why should you feel this way- I know you feel like nothing’s right and nothing shall ever be- but you are wrong. Stop denying it. Hold on to the pain until you can’t bear to hold it any longer- and then, let go. There was nothing wrong with loving the sh*t out of him, just like there’s nothing wrong with loving the sh*t out of this pain. Don’t apologize for your heart and everything it feels. Other people can find their walls and keep them- but you, my girl, should be free, in pain as in love and in all else. So hold on until you can let go. Get over him when you are ready and until then, maybe draw a list that can help.
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If you want to know what to put on that piece of paper, here’s a list of all the things about him that you can hate, based on his zodiac:
Aries (March 21 – April 19)
An Aries guy isn’t the one who puts in a lot of thought into his decisions. He is a carefree soul who can be fun in the beginning but whose blissfully ignorant (of you) spontaneity can grate your nerves real quick. And we all know you deserve better than to be someone’s afterthought. So, let that a-hole fly to Dubai or Rome without telling you, coz when he comes back, he isn’t coming back (in your life ever).
Taurus (April 20 – May 20)
A Taurean shall always ask for chances because he knows that as long as he can keep the possibility of a happy future alive in your mind, he can continue to have his way. But remember brave girl, the possibility of happiness and happiness aren’t the same thing. You have one life and just the one shot at happiness. Don’t waste it on someone who can only keep you hoping.
Gemini (May 21 – June 20)
A Gemini guy does not need a girlfriend, he needs a mother. And trust me girl, he has one (well, we hope he does). You do not and should not have to remind them of their routine, keep their errant habits in check and be treated like a kiosk that has all the solutions to their life problems. I mean help isn’t ruled out- but c’mon, a man who refuses to grow up isn’t worth your while.
Cancer (June 21 – July 22)
Have you felt like a weight’s suddenly off your shoulders after you broke up with a Cancer guy? Well, it happens. He’s such a downer- he can make life all about feelings, emotions and needs- almost always his. The intensity can feel so overwhelming you’d be afraid the one your own anchor shall make you drown. Cut the whole thing loose and find yourself in a land of light-hearted merriment again.
Leo (July 23 – Aug. 22)
Leos need all the attention in the world. So, if you are getting rid of this one, you may have a lot more time to be appreciative of your own self for a change. No kidding, you shall be surprised at the hand you had in building up his massive ego!
Virgo (Aug. 23 – Sept. 22)
You could never have fun with a Virgo. Overtly meticulous and organized, they would always be thinking about new ways to make something better than it already is. And trust me girl, you don’t need that kind of negativity in your life. Don’t allow your life to be a drag and throw open the gates for fun. And oh, that’s after you kick him out!
Libra (Sept. 23 – Oct. 22)
A Libra is never going to put you first. Instinctually charming, he is always on the lookout to sweep every new person he meets off their feet. Nobody wants that. I mean sure, you wouldn’t say no to being won over and over again- but they aren’t going to chip in their efforts for doing that for someone they already have.
Scorpio (Oct. 23 – Nov. 21)
A Scorpio man isn’t really a loving being. Sure, he may love you alright but his tenacity and strength kicks right back in when things begin to get rough. Loving him can feel like a chore and if love doesn’t come as naturally as breathing, it may begin to feel like a burden.
Sagittarius (Nov. 22 – Dec. 21)
A Sagittarius man isn’t the kind who can go ten minutes without cracking a lamea*s joke. Now, humor isn’t bad per se but no woman wants to be with a guy who cannot hold his own when things need to be serious.
Capricorn (Dec. 22 – Jan. 19)
Now now, he just doesn’t know how to love. It isn’t his fault or maybe it is. We can’t really say. But he isn’t willing to sit up, take notes and learn either!
Aquarius (Jan. 20 – Feb. 18)
If you want to be with a smug a-hole, by all means, go ahead. But if you need someone who treats you like an equal, then, steer clear of an Aquarius. He isn’t the kind of guy who can give respect. Always condescending, he shall never be willing to admit that he is any less than superior to all and sundry and that includes you!
Suggested read: Here’s how you WISH to feel loved, based on your Zodiac sign
Pisces (Feb. 19 – March 20)
A Pisces man can make you feel emotionally stunted. And when it comes to matters of the heart, that isn’t really the kind of thing you want to *feel*, right?
You are welcome!
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