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If She Scares You, She Is The One

What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, right? We have this tendency to push our boundaries and be better with every passing day. Almost every romantic junkie out there can understand the kind of adrenaline rush we all get when we are with someone who constantly challenges us to be better. We all like to achieve greatness and take this journey with the one we love. If we are lucky, we end up discovering ourselves with a whole new perspective.

There are a lot of people out there who is obsessed with the idea of “finding” themselves. Though, there is nothing wrong in knowing who you are, but to be frank, it doesn’t take a lifetime to find yourself. It is the most natural process that happens in its own course of time. We can find ourselves whenever we want, but it is “creating” ourselves that might take a lifetime. If you are with a girl who challenges you to be better and constantly redefine who you are, then consider she is the one for you. She will help you create yourself and that is something that you certainly can’t let go of!

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1. Because life starts outside your comfort zone

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You can’t spend your whole life staying in your comfort zone. Sooner or later, you need to step out of the bubble and create your own unique space in this world. You certainly can’t do that without challenging yourself. She might scare you in the beginning, but she would also put you out of your comfort zone.

You won’t follow the same monotonous routine with her. She would come into your life like a breath of fresh air and will save you from drowning in the whirlpool of your own thoughts. The moment you would come out of your comfort zone, you’ll realize how easy and effortless it was. You would be scared in the beginning, but soon, you would be able to set new milestones for you.

2. She will make you acknowledge your emotions

You won’t be required to hide your emotions in front of her. You know she is the one because you can bare your body and soul out to her, without feeling a single ounce of discomfort. She would enter into your life with a plethora of emotions that might be a little overwhelming to you in the beginning.

You would be scared with the feeling of the unknown. You haven’t felt anything like that before and that thought will make you second guess every move you make. Though, it would take you only a few days to realize that there is nothing wrong with being emotional. In fact, your emotions can sometimes help you to do the impossible.

3. And will make you feel them in a more intense way

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Not only would you be able to feel the kind of outlandish emotions that you thought never existed in this world, but would also feel them in a more intense way. This would help you see the world around you with a brand new pair of eyes. You would start acknowledging the struggle of others and what it takes to make one’s dream come true.

You would be full of emotions and become more compassionate. This will help you see the best in people and you would be able to live your life in a whole different way. You will start believing in the existence of soulmates and will realize the depth of love. She would become your “one and only” in the most effortless way.

4. You would be able to overcome the toughest of adversities

Crossing all those hurdles won’t be an impossible thing anymore. You would be able to overcome even the hardest of times without much effort. Yes, it would be a little hard in the beginning. She would challenge you in almost every sphere of your life. You would have a new battle to fight every day – not just with her, but sometimes, with yourself as well. The more you fight, the more you would realize the importance of giving it your all without thinking of an outcome.

You would start giving the whole of you in almost every sphere of your life. There would come a time when you won’t be scared of even the most dreadful of situations. You know you can overcome it all with her by your side.

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5. You will never get bored!

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Being with her would be a journey in itself. Your life would be this roller-coaster ride that would only go up. The change would scare you in the beginning, but you would gradually realize that life without change is not worth living. You will start making all those random plans and will never hesitate to convey your notions about love.

She will keep coming with different ways to make you feel better. Though, most of the times you would have to move out of your comfort zone, but it would definitely be worth it in the end. You would realize that she is the one and only with whom you can spend the rest of your life with. You won’t have it any other way!

6. You won’t have a fear of commitment anymore

This would happen so effortlessly, that you won’t even realize the change in you. Gradually, you would get used to her. She would become an irreplaceable part of your life. In fact, you would get addicted to all that rush and excitement that she brings with her. You won’t be afraid to step it up a little.

Your fear of commitment will gradually subside and you would start making all those important life-changing decisions with her. If you think your fear of commitment is not letting you find the one, then be with a girl who scares you. She will redefine the meaning of almost everything in your life. She will make you realize why it never worked out with anyone else before.

7. She will make you face yourself

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You will break all those standards that you used to confine yourself with. You won’t be scared to be all by yourself. She will make you realize your own worth by giving you a much-needed space. You would start appreciating your company and won’t be that lonely anymore. There would come a time when you would keep experimenting new things with her. You would redefine yourself and set new standards for you.

8. She will inspire you!

Nothing in this whole wide world can stop you anymore if you have the one you love the most by your side. With her support, you would be able to climb even the tallest of mountains. She would be a perfect muse and will inspire you to make your whole life a work of art.

You would love to wake up next to her and commence every single day by having her company. She would let you see the bigger picture, which might scare you a little, but in the most positive way.

9. You will be amazed to see how far you can go


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You would overcome every obstacle without any trouble. Not only would you move past your fear of commitment, but you will start thinking of the long haul. The more she would challenge you, the more you will get inspired to prove everyone around you wrong. You know she is the one who will always be there by your side. You can think of having a fruitful future with her.

You will bring a much-needed positive change in your life and will cross all the limitations that existed in your own mind. You will liberate yourself from your own thoughts to be the writer of your destiny.

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10. Your life will never be the same again

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You would be able to see a staggering difference in your life all by yourself. You can easily divide your entire life into two distinctive time laps – before her and after her. She would make you open to almost everything that this world has to offer. The entire universe will become your playground and you won’t be hesitant to take a leap of faith.

You would be changed, knowing that change is the only constant thing in this world. Instead of resisting it, you would start accepting the change. You will feel limitless, unafraid, and scared of losing her – all at the same time.

It is a good thing to be scared – it means you have something to lose. The more you’d be scared, the more precisely you would realize why you need to spend your whole life with her. You don’t have to bend. You don’t have to make any plans. She will help you take every big step. She will let you believe in the existence of soulmates. You would start falling in love with the mere idea of love. It would be just you and her against the whole wide world. It would be a battle that you’ll fight and win almost every single day. Hold her tight. Never let go of her! You have found a keeper and your life will never be the same again without her.

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If She Scares You, She Is The One
It is a good thing to be scared – it means you have something to lose.
Bhavya Kaushik

Bhavya Kaushik

A national bestselling author, Bhavya believes that too often the stories we write paint the reality we try to escape from. Bhavya believes in breaking the stereotypes and trying new things because life is too short to let it stay boring. With his love for verse, he can be found avidly blogging about life, love and everything that covers in between. He lives his life by the motto, 'I'm the story of my own journey.' "I don't write stories. I write characters."