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Why Understanding Your Body And What Turns You On Is Important For Your Relationship

Understanding your own body, and what turns you on can be the most beautiful thing. By recognizing what it is that stimulates you, by coming to an understanding of what it is that arouses you, you are then able to give of yourself wholeheartedly in your relationship. You are then able to truly express yourself, without feeling unsatisfied, or at times, intimidated by your partner.

Women should never feel ashamed or embarrassed in exploring their bodies both on their own, or in the company of their partner. Nor should their male counterparts. Exploring your erogenous zones, through physical stimulation of your sensitive body parts, is a gorgeous and wonderful experience, from which a store of knowledge is obtained.

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“That feels good,” “I love it when you touch me there,” “Keep doing that,” and “I can’t believe how amazing that feels,” are all expressions of your inner emotions that can ignite passion within your relationship. For by understanding what it is that turns you on, and by conveying these feelings to your partner, you are then able to give them the opportunity to turn you on. They then feel empowered. Your lover is then able to turn you on, again, again, and again.

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I’m feeling hot just thinking about it. For when you express to your lover what it is that turns you on, you in turn feel an overwhelming sense of confidence within your relationship. When intimate with your lover, they understand what it is that turns you on, and they are more than likely going to know exactly what it is that hits the sweet spot for you. They are then more than likely to go there, during times of intimacy with you.

However, sitting your partner down and chatting about what it is that turns you on is often too uncomfortable for many of us. That is the reason why expressing yourself during intimate moments with your partner is so important. Sharing these thoughts and feelings together during intimacy can often be the best way to illustrate to your partner what you would like them to do when you are together.

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Let’s try this analogy. Start from where your partner is at. By engaging with them, and coming to an understanding of what it is that turns them on, you are then better positioned to convey to them what it is that actually turns you on. “How do you feel when I touch you there? Does that feel good? Would you like me to go a little slower? Is that too hard?” All these questions, this engagement with your partner, this sharing of feelings and emotions brings you closer together. I’m feeling hot again just thinking about it. Perhaps I had best lay down for a moment.

Never be ashamed of your innermost desires and feelings. And never feel too nervous or frightened to share these thoughts within your relationship with that special person. For ultimately, everything comes out in the wash, and harboring these emotions, these feelings of lust, this knowledge of what turns you on, is unhealthy. By keeping these feelings at bay, ultimately, you shall never be able to truly express yourself within your relationship. You shall never be truly satisfied sexually, physically, and emotionally.

Once again I do realize conveying to your partner what it is that turns you on can be difficult, if not impossible. Each of us is turned on in a multitude of different ways. Some of us enjoy being touched in particular places, others cannot stand to be touched there. However, once you explore your own body, both with and without your partner, and once you find out what it is that actually does turn you on, you are at least half of the way toward achieving intimacy, and at times ecstasy, within your life. Exploring what it is that turns your body on, is such a turn on.

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Understanding Your Body And What Turns You On
When it comes to sexual satisfaction, you need to understand what turns you on pretty well.
Sasha Holden

Sasha Holden

Sasha Holden burst onto the literary scene in 2015. Her short stories quickly evoked passion within her fan base who related instantly to her unique brand of eroticism. The ability to engage the reader on both an emotional and physical level provided the key to her success. A renowned poet in her own right, Sasha released her first literary novel entitled “Sarah” Malcolm’s Prize on Amazon in mid-2015 to much critical acclaim within the erotic fiction industry. Like Sarah, her leading female characters more often than not lonely, yet longing to explore their innermost desires sexually. Her stories enter the most intimate corners of her characters’ minds, leaving no stone unturned in their quest for pleasure. The need for my eroticism to arouse readers on every level, as they turn the pages, is my ultimate goal as a writer. Sasha has a strong following in the UK and India, as well as her home base of US. She is now a published author with Moon and stars press.