Let’s cut to the chase. We are lashing out against stereotypes and are in no way, attempting to create any new ones. If you are of an open mind, here we go. Coming from a single parent family does not make an individual broken or ‘damaged.’ We are as whole as you are. In fact, coming from a single parent family makes us more independent and more assertive. Watching your mother doing everything on her own has its own effect on you.

So, if you are still thinking and trying to decipher women raised by single mothers, read on.

1. We value the little things AND the big things

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We value our independence. We learn to value the little moments that count as well as become grateful for the bigger privileges like our education, our career, because we know that these things don’t come easy. We consider ourselves lucky to have had all of these.

2. We choose our partners more carefully

Having seen first-hand how difficult it is to raise children on your own, we automatically tend to try and choose better life partners – because WE KNOW.

3. We learn women are just as capable as men

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Women cannot be as good as men is a MYTH. After all, single mothers do every single thing on their own and you’ll never hear a peep out of them. Even if you do, you realize it’s okay because you will figure. We aren’t conditioned to believe in gender hierarchy.

4. We learn to value friendships

What is next to family? The family that you choose, of course! We make friends more carefully and those friendships last a lifetime. When you have no one, you will have your best friend by your side!

5. We learn that it is okay to ask for help

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In spite of being independent, it is alright to ask for help for things we are unable to do. Ask and you shall receive. A mother can only do so much, even she asked for help sometimes and it was just fine.

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6. We learn to accept mistakes. And move on

My mom never told me not to make mistakes. The consequences of those mistakes are a stepping stone to a better decision. Us, daughters of single mothers, have made our peace with it and have learnt to accept our mistakes and move on in life without dwelling on it.

7. We learn it is fine to be alone at times

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Being alone and enjoying your own company is the best that there is. It is not imperative to always be around people. It is sometimes okay to just be on your own and do your own thing without having to explain this to anyone.

8. We are fiercely independent

While we accept that it is alright to ask for help at times, most of the times we can pretty much take care of ourselves without any help. We don’t rely on other people for our happiness and that’s nice. We learn that if we want something, the only way to attain is to go get it.

9. We always think twice about doing everything

We are super careful about everything we do because we are well aware of the consequences a hasty decision can bear.

10. We love our mothers too much to put into words

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Our mothers are superwomen. Without them, we couldn’t have survived. They are a friend, a sister, a mother and a confidante. And they did a helluva job of raising us! However, that doesn’t make us impose unrealistic pressure on her- we learn from her just how human she is and we love her just as she is!

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