If you want to attain a lasting relationship with your guy, then you need to work on emotional intimacy. After all, it is all about how well the two of you connect on an emotional level. You might already know that we all perceive and express emotions differently. While some people can feel strong emotions, they can find it hard to express them – be it a guy or a girl.
Emotional intimacy could be one of the major struggles in your relationship, particularly when the guy you are dating finds it hard to express his feelings. Though, if you walk an extra mile, then you can easily learn how to attract a man emotionally. I always say that people are just like onions – they come in layers. If you really want to know someone and connect on an emotional level, then you need to give it some time. You need to unravel their mind and soul – one layer at a time. Here are some suggestions that will help you connect with your man emotionally.
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- Take the lead
As much as I hate to generalize things, the truth is that sometimes, men can be shy (especially if they like you). Chances are that he might spend so much time over-thinking that he can come out as rude or uninterested. If you don’t want to miss a chance, then why not take a lead yourself. Most of the men find it extremely attractive and it will help you drive the relationship accordingly. He would also be able to have a stronger connection with you this way.
- Be patient
You might already know that patience is the key to any healthy relationship. If you are already dating a guy and are finding it hard to emotionally connect with him, then give it some time. Remember, Rome was not built in a day, right? You can’t expect him to open up to you instantly. Don’t put a deadline on it or try to rush things. Take it one day at a time and be patient. If he is able to trust you, then he will certainly make an effort.
- Do new things
Don’t be afraid to be playful in your relationship. Too often, people get bored of doing the same things over and over again. If you have been dating the same kind of people for a while, then there must be something new and exciting about your man that must have attracted you. Take him to the kind of places where you can have a heartfelt conversation with him or simply do some exciting things together. Break the monotony and let him explore a whole new (and even previously unexplored) side of him.
- Open up to him
If you think he is finding it hard to connect with you emotionally then try to open up to him a little. Tell him about your everyday details and what kind of music you like. If you are comfortable, then you can also share details about your childhood with him, what are your dreams and aspirations, and let him know your inner self. Do it in a stepwise manner so that you can build trust in your relationship. He will certainly appreciate it and reciprocate the same.
- Listen carefully
Trust me when I say this – everyone likes to be around a good listener. Sometimes, the best thing that you can do is just listen to your partner. Don’t think that he is sharing something because he wants your help or would like to impress you. Just give him your undivided attention. A thoughtful conversation is the best way to build an emotional relationship with anyone.
- Don’t be judgmental
When you listen to him, make sure that you don’t come out as judgmental or condescending. Look for the silver lining and give him the benefit of the doubt. Try not to say anything that might make him feel small or hurt his feelings. Even if you can’t help him, just listen – sometimes it is the best thing that one can do.
- Be honest
Needless to say, nobody likes to be played or manipulated. When you share something with him or even talk generally, avoid being dishonest. Sometimes, even insignificant lies can turn big and tamper with the mere foundation of a relationship. Don’t lie to him just to avoid an argument. Be honest and expect him to have the same behavior.
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- Appreciate and support him
If you really want to know how to attract a man emotionally, then you should certainly implement this suggestion. Appreciate him every once in a while and let him know how much you value him in your life. I’m not saying that you need to overdo it, but there is nothing wrong with telling your man how much you adore him every once in a while.
While he might seem sorted and functional all the time, chances are that he could be going through something rough. Make sure that you support him when he is not able to be strong enough on his own. Your emotional support will mean the world to him and he would be able to open up to you without any second thought.
- Avoid fighting dirty
No one likes to fight dirty in a relationship and your guy would be no such exception. It is quite natural to have arguments with your partner. Though, when you are fighting with him, make sure that you avoid name calling or digging things from the past. Until and unless you want to talk about a pattern, avoid digging up something he did a few months back.
- Maintain your personal space
Too often, we get so overly attached with our partner that we end up losing ourselves in that relationship. This is something that you should always avoid. Spend some quality time with him, but don’t lose your individuality. You should maintain your circle and spend time with your own friends and family. Similarly, you should let him be with his people as well. In this way, the two of you would have a life outside of the relationship, which is something a lot of people miss these days.
- Avoid comparing your relationship with others
One of the best ways to emotionally attract a man is by letting him know that you genuinely care about his feelings. If you would always compare him with other people or even the two of you with other couples, then you won’t be able to attain a healthy relationship. At the same time, you should avoid social media validation or change the pace of your relationship for someone else. Be present in your relationship and avoid comparing it with others.
- Keep his secrets safe
If you really want him to trust you, then you need to make sure that all his secrets are safe with you. I know a lot of people think that sharing things with our best friend is okay, but there are a few exceptions. There are certain things that should only be kept between the two of you. The moment you share his secrets with someone else, you would give away an intimate part of him to them, which should always be avoided.
- Have an open dialogue
If there is something you want to discuss or talk about, then be direct with your guy. Trust me – every man out there appreciates honesty and would like to have an open dialogue about things. Too often, we simply beat around the bush and expect our partner to take a hint. Well, it doesn’t always work in the same way. Sometimes, it is just better to have a direct and open conversation with your partner. This will bring more transparency in your relationship, leading to an emotional connect.
- Be his friend
Last, but most importantly, you can’t have an emotional connection with him without being his friend. Your partner should be comfortable to share everything with you. While it is natural to have love and romance in a relationship, make sure it won’t take away the sense of friendship between the two of you. The moment you discover this, you attain perfect bliss in your relationship.
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At the end of the day, it is all about how you connect with your partner. If they are comfortable in opening up to you and can share their emotions without the fear of being judged, then your relationship will surely last long. Sometimes, we need to walk an extra mile for our partner – not because we have to, but because it is all worth it in the end.
I’m sure that after following these suggestions, you would be able to have a deep emotional connection with your man. Learning how to attract a man emotionally is not tough, but you would need to make constant effort to sustain that connection. Feel free to implement these suggestions and let us know if it brings a positive change in your relationship and how.
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