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Secrets To A Happy Marriage Are Honesty, Compromise, And Having Separate Toilets!

What would you say is the secret to a happy marriage? Trust, honesty, and a sense of humor to see the lighter side of life figure on the top of anyone’s list, a new survey has other things to add to this list. Check out the secrets to a happy marriage that were arrived at after the survey.

The survey, conducted on 2000 happily married British couples, was to mark the launch of a new book titled, How to Seduce Your Wife (or Anyone Else’s) by Andy Gibney.

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While trust, a shared sense of humor, and honesty figure at the top of the list of secrets to a happy marriage, a few unexpected ones figure too. Some of the odd ones that the British couples felt key to a happy marriage included having two cars, separate bathrooms and televisions. Rounding off the top 5 were remembering each other’s birthdays and anniversaries came in fourth and accepting each other’s faults at the fifth.

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One might think that regular sex would figure somewhere at the top of the list, but it came in at 20th on the list. Some of the other important ones that couples stressed on were staying away from tablets and/or computers for at least one night a week and sharing phone code and/or social media platforms. Blissful couples said saying I love you regularly helps keep a relationship happy and harmonious.

Speaking about the factors on the list, Andy Gibney, author of the book said,

“Trust, compromise, and honesty are generally regarded as the most important things in a marriage but for most people, it’s not that simple.”

“In the modern world, marriages are having to survive against a host of new technology with many couple falling out over what to watch on the TV or one of both of you spending too much time focusing on your computers, tablets or mobile phones.

“Romance is also an important factor, whether this is a surprise gift, a date night or simply some quality time together. After being married for a while, it’s easy to find you are stuck in a rut and not really paying each other any attention, but hopefully some of these ‘secrets’ will be helpful,” opined Gibney.

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Compromising, knowing when to apologize, being able to laugh at each other, and having a similar outlook on life round off the top ten. While we’ve written about the scientific benefits of cuddling, the same advice has been given by the happily married couples in the survey. Hugging and cuddling, always kissing each other good night, and surprising your partner with a romantic gesture are all recommended.

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Some of the other secrets to a happy marriage include never going to sleep angry, sharing aims and ambitions, and a continued effort to look nice for you partner. Something as simple and touching as holding hands when you’re out and about makes a lot of difference, say couples.

The survey coughed up some interesting insights besides listing the 50 secrets to a happy marriage.

1. Three quarters of people thought that if you’re friends before becoming an item, you’re more likely to have a happy and successful marriage

2. 95% of those polled considered romance to be important for a happy marriage

3. 29% wanted a little surprise from their partner every now and then

4. Less than one in ten people wanted the traditional flowers and chocolates

5. 21% perceived gifts as romantic gestures if it was something personal to them

Mr Gibney added,

“It should be obvious that it is communication that keeps people together, whether that’s verbal or non-verbal, but life has a way of getting in the way. The research, and the message in the book, is keep talking, keep laughing, keep doing the things that made you happy at the start of your relationship and never lose it.”

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In conclusion, he said,

“Keep the respect, keep the kissing and the intimacy, and above all, remember why you fell in love in the first place.”

Check out the full list of 50 secrets to a happy marriage here below:

  1. Trusting each other
  2. Same sense of humor
  3. Always being honest with each other
  4. Remember birthdays and anniversaries
  5. Accepting each other’s faults
  6. Compromising
  7. Saying ‘I love you’ regularly
  8. Knowing when to say sorry
  9. Being able to laugh at each other
  10. Having a similar outlook on life
  11. Regular hugs/cuddles
  12. Always kiss each other goodnight
  13. The occasional romantic gesture
  14. Considering your partner to be your best friend
  15. Sharing the parenting duties
  16. Always kiss each other goodbye in the mornings
  17. Having some shared hobbies and interests
  18. Always talk about a problem rather than bottling it up
  19. Ask each other about their day
  20. Regular sex
  21. Having some different hobbies and interests
  22. Knowing when to give each other some space
  23. Never going to sleep on an argument
  24. Regular holidays/mini breaks
  25. Having similar aims and ambitions
  26. Having the odd argument or disagreement
  27. Continuing to make an effort to look nice for your partner
  28. Getting on with each other’s family
  29. Setting aside quality time for each other
  30. Holding hands when you are out and about
  31. Regularly complimenting each other
  32. Having your own friends as well as mutual friends
  33. Two TVs in the house
  34. Getting on with each other’s friends
  35. Each having a car
  36. Still shaving/grooming
  37. Each having equal share of the lie-ins when you have children
  38. Separate bank accounts
  39. Having regular nights out with friends, without your partner
  40. Surprise gifts/presents
  41. Not being friends with ANY ex-partners on Facebook
  42. A rota to divide up the household chores
  43. Regular date nights
  44. Two bathrooms/toilets
  45. Not having one person hogging the remote control
  46. Similar working hours
  47. Knowing each other’s passcode for their phone
  48. A secret stash of cash they know nothing about
  49. Keeping some things private (not going to the toilet in front of each other, etc.,)
  50. A night or two a week where neither of you use computers/laptops/phones, etc.,

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Chaitra Ramalingegowda

Chaitra Ramalingegowda

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