What Is The Cupcake Phase? How Can You Prolong It?

by Bhavya Kaushik · January 7, 2019

As cheesy as it might sound, a cupcake phase is probably one of the best stages in any relationship. As the name suggests, it involves a lot of cuddling and sweet talk. There is just something about our partner that seems utterly mysterious, which makes the entire relationship exciting and makes us walk an extra mile for them. The phase includes everything romantic – late night movies, Sunday brunches, cheesy texts, nicknames, social media tagging, and so much more.

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A lot of people even say that it is the most enjoyable time of their relationship, which doesn’t include any drama or jealousy. After all, it is pure bliss that every couple should experience. Sadly, most of the people feel that their honeymoon phase only lasts for a limited period. I remember dating someone a while back and after a few months, our cupcake phase started to fade away.

So how can you prolong it and make it last for a longer time? As surprising as it might sound, the honeymoon phase in your relationship can last for as long as you want. Though, the two of you would need to make some effort to sustain it. Here are some thoughtful suggestions to help you do the same.

Spend more time together

This is the most important thing to consider for keeping a relationship healthy. The more time you would spend with your partner, the deeper your relationship will get. The two of you should make a habit of talking to each other and doing all the crazy things without being judgmental. Try to include them in your everyday activities so that they can be an integral part of your life. Even if you two are in a long distance relationship, make sure that you give each other dedicated time.

Keep the sparks alive

When we first start dating someone, there are obvious sparks in the relationship. Gradually, after being with the same person for a while, the sparks also fade away. This is exactly where you need to put an extra effort. Make sure that your relationship stays strong and that there should be something intimate about it.

Try to analyze the relationship from the perspective of your partner and get to know about the things that they want to do. Not only will they appreciate it, but it would also make your relationship more dynamic.

Do more activities together

One of the best ways to keep your relationship young is by doing fun activities with your partner. For instance, the two of you can go on a hiking expedition, plan a Sunday picnic, have a staycation, or even join couple’s dance classes. Literally, the sky is the limit here. Pick up on a hobby and learn new things with your partner. You would be able to widen your horizon while having the best person by your side. Things can’t get better than this!

Seduce your partner more often

This is the phase of lots of cuddling and you should certainly not stop there. Don’t let your partner take you for granted. Seduce them every once in a while and let them know how much you are worth it. Learn to understand their body language and what they want. Tease them seductively and speak with their mind and soul.

Listen to your partner

In order to know what your partner is going through, it is important to listen to them. Try to make a routine to have a heartfelt conversation with your partner for at least 30-60 minutes on a daily basis. Avoid watching television or checking your phone during that. Simply have an honest conversation with them and try to listen more. Get to know about their day, what they like, and their current state of mind.

Avoid social media validation

A lot of people these days pretend to have a honeymoon phase just to validate their relationship on social media. While posting some photos on social media is alright, you should not do it just for the sake of it. Try to have a natural relationship with your partner without considering social media validation in mind. Remember, you don’t need to prove to anyone how much you love your significant other.

Acknowledge the change in your relationship

Just like any other thing, your relationship will also witness a significant change during its course. The way we see our partner or experience love also drastically changes over time. Instead of forcing things to stay the same, you should be willing to change. Acknowledge how the two of you have grown over time and let your relationship unfold accordingly.

Never fight dirty

This is the golden rule for every relationship. If you want to have a healthy and lasting relationship with your partner, then never fight dirty with them. Every time you have an argument or fight, remember that you should not be fighting with your partner. Instead, the two of you should be fighting the problem together.

Until and unless you want to talk about a pattern, try not to include things from the past in the present argument. Needless to say, you should avoid name calling or shouting at your partner. Have a constructive discussion with them so that the two of you can reach a conclusion in less time and avoid bitterness in your relationship.

Appreciate and support your partner

This is another thoughtful suggestion that will help you prolong the honeymoon phase in your relationship. There must be numerous things about your partner that you must like. Why not let them know about it every once in a while. Compliment them more often and just let them know how special they are.

At the same time, you should be their support system. You should be the first person they contact whenever they need mental support or any other assistance. This will also strengthen the trust in your relationship.

Try not to argue over irrelevant issues

Whenever you pick a fight with your partner, take a step back and ask yourself – is this really worth fighting for? I’m not suggesting that you should ignore everything. Though, there are some arguments that can easily be avoided. Give your partner the benefit of doubt at times and try to avoid any irrelevant argument.

Maintain individual space

Just because you are dating someone, it doesn’t mean that you will end up losing your individuality. In fact, it is one of the worst things to happen. While there is nothing wrong with spending quality time with your partner, you should not compromise with your personal space in the process.

Communicate the same with your partner and make sure they maintain their individual space as well. Go out with your other friends, visit your family, work on your passion, and even spend some time on your own. Sometimes, a limited separation is important and can even strengthen your relationship.

Never go to bed in a bad mood

One of the best things about the cupcake phase is that we always feel passionately about our partner. Though, if you go to bed with a bitter mood, then it will certainly affect the current state of your relationship. The two of you might gradually drift apart or can move to any other phase in your relationship. To avoid this, you should put a pause to any fight before going to bed. This will make your partner realize that no matter what, the innocence in your relationship won’t be lost.

Go on a vacation together

Whenever you feel like as if the sparks in your relationship are fading, consider planning a vacation with your partner. It will give a new perspective to your relationship and you will get a chance to know your partner in a better way. As you will stay for a few days with them, everything else would gradually fade away. The two of you can focus on each other and rekindle your romance.

Try new things to avoid monotony

Monotony can be a buzz-kill in any relationship. To avoid this, the two of you should try new and exciting things. For instance, you can spice things up in bed a little or join a new couple’s learning program. There are also some trust-building exercises that you can do. From a last-minute vacation to trying new things to eat – there are thousands of ways to break the monotony in your relationship. Keep your romance young and never hesitate in doing new things with your partner.

I’m sure that after following these suggestions, you would be able to prolong the honeymoon phase in your relationship. Just cuddle with your partner more often, make last-minute plans with them, go to unexplored places, and speak the same language of love.

Most importantly, don’t take them for granted and never hesitate walking an extra mile for them. Try to see the best in them and you would be able to appreciate your relationship every single day. If you also have some personal suggestions for our readers that can help them do the same, then let us know about it in the comments.

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