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Of Unequal Effort: 10 Signs You Are Giving Too Much In A Relationship

There comes a time in a relationship when every individual needs to realize if their efforts are genuinely getting appreciated or if they are just taken for granted. There is no harm in trying to make a relationship work, but it should be effortless. The moment you start forcing it to work, you often realize that it has become a relation of unequal efforts.

Here are a few signs that can help you figure out if you are trying too hard to save your relationship.

1. You get over-involved in their life

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Their priorities become your priorities and you start fulfilling their needs before thinking about yours. You start getting involved in every decision they make just to make yourself feel content.

2. You start feeling powerless

When they are gone, you start thinking irrationally and become needy at times. You compare their presence with their affection and demand them to stay with you for longer durations than before.

3. Denial

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There comes a time when you start noticing their disengagement from you. You know that the relationship is not going the right way, yet you deny the truth that you are trying way too much to save it. You overlook the facts and imagine a happy future for the two of you in your mind.

4. You try to buy their love

This is something which a lot of people do. In order to let them know how much you love them, you start giving them expensive products and gifts. Taking them out for lavish treats and holidays on your expense makes you think that you can make them yours.

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5. You are ready to do anything for them

Just to spend a few more minutes with them, you are ready to change your priorities and miss other significant things. At this stage, you should ask yourself that if the roles were reversed, will they do the same for you.

6. You analyze everything you do or say

You think about the repercussion of everything that you might say or do. Their reaction starts playing games with your mind and you start analyzing every move you make.

7. You accept their bad behavior

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Everyone loses their temper a few times, but when it comes to them, you start getting used to their bad behaviour time after time. You start compromising with your sense of self-esteem and bend yourself in order to make them feel happy.

8. You forgive them easily

Even when they fail to wish you on your birthday or forget a crucial event, you forgive them in a second, just after getting their single look.

9. You try to make things official

You try to get a serious commitment from them, hoping to put a lock on the relationship. But this only disappoints you in the end, when you find that their idea of the future has turned out to be very different from what you have imagined.

10. You think of them – all the time

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Even when you are with your family or friends, you start giving them more priority. It is not bad to think of them in their absence, but not with a fear of losing them. You analyze every word they say, every move they make, and everything they do. You start thinking about their actions so much that you fall into a spiral, making them the biggest priority of your life. You only find your happiness in their presence, even when they won’t reciprocate the same.

If you are following the same pattern, then take a step back and analyze if your efforts are getting invested in a safe place. Relationships demand people to sacrifice, but not to the extent that you start losing your own identity to save two of you. THINK!

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10 Signs You Are Giving Too Much In A Relationship
Do you find yourself on an unequal footing? Are you giving too much in a relationship? Beware of these signs...
Bhavya Kaushik

Bhavya Kaushik

A national bestselling author, Bhavya believes that too often the stories we write paint the reality we try to escape from. Bhavya believes in breaking the stereotypes and trying new things because life is too short to let it stay boring. With his love for verse, he can be found avidly blogging about life, love and everything that covers in between. He lives his life by the motto, 'I'm the story of my own journey.' "I don't write stories. I write characters."