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12 People Reveal The Lies They’ve Told To Avoid The Harsh ‘I’m Just Not That Into You’ Truth

I am just going to say it – dating is hard. I am guilty of lying my bu*t off to get out of an awkward situation that involves telling someone, I’m just not that into you. I will make up a whole range of ingenious excuses and cook up incredible stories about WHY I can’t be with them instead of just telling them the truth. Yes, I know. It sucks, but I just don’t have it in me to just hurt them like that. Okay, okay, maybe I do, but hey! At least I don’t come across as a cold-hearted bi*ch when I lie.

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I was kind of secretly happy that I am not the only person who does this (thankfully!), when I was penning this and taking my survey- coz hey,  we’ve all lied at some points in our lives and THESE people have actually used a number of pages from my own book to get out of this exact same situation – that is to avoid saying those dreaded, tasteless words – ‘I am just not into you.’

  • “This guy I had been on a few dates with, was very much into me. And I wasn’t looking for anything more but he was a really lovely person. So I just said the classic lie ‘I am actually seeing someone… you know?’

I am sure he took the hint. – Susan, 20.

  • “This annoying girl really wanted to sleep with me and I was just not down for it. So I just told her, “I am sorry, you are great but I am actually asexual.”

That, of course, was a lie. – Sid, 32.

  • “I am actually moving to Australia in some time and I really don’t want to weigh you down in a long-distance relationship, you know?”

I actually did move to Australia… 8 years later. 😛 – Tina, 28.

  • “I told this girl that I was suffering from a lifelong disease and it was impossible for me to get into any kind of relationship. She still sends me get well wishes every year.” – Sam, 24.
  • “I had met this guy on Tinder, but as I conversed with him I felt a little off and had changed my mind about going on a date with him. So I made up this whole story about how my sister had an emergency C-section and I had to be there with her and how I’ll be busy for a while with the baby and all. “

I don’t even have a sister. – Raven, 22.

  • I told her that I really needed time to focus on me and my cat’s relationship for now. I don’t know why I said that but she replied saying ‘I understand.’ “ I still don’t know what the f*ck happened! – Karl, 25.

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  • “Whenever I want to turn down a date, I have my go-to drafted message which involves a story that I am still very much hung over on my ex and it is extremely complicated and it just wouldn’t be fair for me to drag someone else into this mess. Works like a charm!” – Laurelle, 37.
  • “‘I am just focusing on myself now, to evolve as person. But thanks!’ Yes, I have actually said that.” – Allison, 23.
  • “I told this guy, ‘You know, you’re the kind of guy who I see myself marrying, but you know, right now I don’t think I am ready for that kind of a commitment. And anything less isn’t fair to you.’” So much lies.  – Sophie, 24.
  • “I once told this guy that I am a lesbian to get out of dating him.” – Pamela, 21.
  • “I told him that I was secretly in love with my best friend and hence I couldn’t go out him. My best friend is married, and I am straight.” – Rachel, 29.

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  • “My mother doesn’t think I should be dating right now. Sorry, I really respect her to not listen to her.”  – Kevin, 22.

Eh, we do what we gotta do!

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I'm Just Not Into You: 12 People Reveal The Lies They've Told To Avoid This Harsh Truth
Because accept it or not, many lies are better than this 'I'm just not that into you' truth!
Amrin Talib

Amrin Talib

I am a brunette and an egalitarian. I love good food, cats, dogs, and books. I love to write, along with being an adrenaline junkie who hopes to travel the world someday. I have a cat named Duck.