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12 Things I Learnt From My Love At First Sight Experience

I fell in love at first sight. Okay, before you roll your eyes hear me out! I used to be you but we are now engaged to be married soon and I think it was truly love at first sight. I have always been a fan of romance, girl meets boy, they fall in love and have a happily ever after, but after a few tragic failed crushes I was beginning to believe that love at first sight is a whole load of crap. Which is exactly when the universe rolled out my surprise fairy tale for me…

I met him and it was love at first sight! And if you can manage to read on without any apprehensions, I can promise this’d be a great place to take away precious relationship nuggets from. Here is what I learnt from this experience and maybe you can too –

1. Listen to that funny feeling 

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The butterflies are all good but when you feel something that powerful in a glimpse, it is like elephants doing circus acts in your tummy. That’s how strong the feeling can be and they say its biological, the pheromones or something like that, but it’s true, pay attention to that feeling. It almost never lies.

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2. You have to take the first step 

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I believed in fairy tales but I didn’t wait for the guy to ask me out. I wasn’t ready to play damsel in distress and have a knight in shining armor come rescue me. I took the first step, extended a hand of friendship and before I knew it, life became the sweet adventure I’d always fancied.

3. It wasn’t mutual 

The violins only played out in my head and only I was feeling giddy, he told me later on that he didn’t feel a thing when he saw me. It needn’t be that you get the same feeling at the same time but it will catch on soon! Well, if he’s single.. 😉

4. Setting matters too 

Oh yeah, he is handsome, he could pass off as Hrithik’s body double. Fine, maybe it’s just me who thinks so! But it wasn’t just his good looks that attracted me, we were in a book shop and he was picking a book I loved which made it that much easier to talk to him. Too nerdy? Worked for me!

5. You need to feel it more 

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We had a date only a week from when I first met him, but the flutters were still very much there. That lovely feeling has to be there few more times so you know it’s more than plain carnal!

6. Accept if it’s a false alarm 

Luckily I wasn’t wrong this time (but I didn’t find that out until much later) and I had totally believed in other guys being my prince charming earlier. I wrestled with the stigma that comes with love-at-first-sight too, became victim to apprehensions but learnt that you know the real deal inside. You can love when you are ready again and if there is an iota of doubt, you have to be open to accepting it as such.

7. Don’t fight too much to make it work 

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If you are like me, you believe in the universe telling you something. If you cross paths too often, you believe you are meant to be together. But don’t fight for it too much either because in the end it’s not worth the lonely battle.

8. Things work out because of positivity

Optimism helps a lot, and makes a big impact in relationships. Rose tinted glasses aren’t always bad and can sail you through teething problems if you believe in love and its power.

9. It’s like any other love story 

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Of course, I had to get to know him past that incident, ask if he had any weird tastes in books 😛 before I could be confident it was love. It’s like any other love story except that I had the *feels* from the beginning!

10. The magic won’t last 

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Yes you get over the heady feeling too soon, maybe too soon for your liking. It happened for me but I was okay with it, stability means more than fairy magic going on all the time. There’s magic in a mundane day of hanging out with him in my pajamas, brewing coffee and talking about how our days went!

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11. You have to make it work 

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Like all relationships, you have to make it work. There’s nobody sitting up there to wave a magic wand all the friggin’ time.

12. I have a great story to tell my kids

In the end, I have that one moment in time when I saw him and I knew this was it. And that makes for a great story for my kids “How I met their father!” 😉

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12 Things I Learnt From My Love At First Sight Experience
I fell in love at first sight. But don't roll your eyes, read my story!
Shilpa Kulkarni

Shilpa Kulkarni

I am a trekker, I love to trek through jungles and life alike! I love the journey more than the destination and the adventure that comes along with it. Counselor, Chef, Foodie, Writer, Traveler, I am all those and more. If you want to get into my good books, just give me a hot cup of Filter Kaapi :)