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12 Important Love Lessons Only Your First Love Teaches You

The mere mention of the words first love makes you feel mushy, right? There is something about our first love that we never forget. Oftentimes, that first love leaves you with many memories and a whole lot of love lessons as well.

Regardless of how shallow or deep your first love may be, you end up learning a lot of amazing lessons and you will become a lot wiser and (perhaps) happier. Love lessons can vary significantly based on the kind of affair you had, but in the end, it will always be for the best.

If you were in love with someone who never loved you back and it was a painful time for you, even then the lessons you learn and the experience is a curve that helps strengthen the beautiful heart that still beats inside of you. So, never regret the flame of love because, good or bad, experience is often the best teacher you can ever have.

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Based upon the experiences we have been through ourselves, the people we spoke to, and a whole lot of insight into too many first love stories, we are here to share 12 love lessons that your first love must have taught you.

1. It isn’t always about a happy ending

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When your first love ended, it taught you that love doesn’t always have a happy ending. Some stories just are; they only exist for a certain period and trust us, that’s not a bad thing. The fact that they didn’t last doesn’t mean that the feelings weren’t real. Your first love taught you that even if you never quite had the forever the poets often promise, you still had something special and it will always remain that way. Cherish the story you lived, regardless of the page it ended on.

2. Talking it out is important

Your first love taught you how important it is to talk about things, to discuss matters, to express yourself, and to communicate in a relationship. There are so many relationships that end because people are too egoistic to talk, too scared to be judged, or are too afraid to be themselves and it ends up hurting the ones they loved the most. Your first love should have taught you how important it is to communicate with the one who loves you dearly because good communication can sometimes salvage a relationship.

3. Not everything lasts, and that’s alright

When you fall in love for the first time, you might believe it will last for an eternity. The world is a very rosy picture for you and everything looks beautiful. It is only when your heart is broken for the first time that you realize that not everything is meant to last and it is an extremely important lesson. It teaches you that it is okay for good things to come to an end because they may give way to even better stories in the future.

4. Broken hearts do heal

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This is perhaps one of the most important lessons to learn about love. When your heart gets shattered, it will ache in the worst possible way. This is the time when you need to know that every broken heart has the power to heal. If you have been through the ordeal of your first heartbreak, you would know that love deserves a second chance and sometimes a third, and a fourth as well. So, don’t worry too much because the hurt heart will fall in love, AGAIN.

5. Sometimes, timing is a bitch

Yes, you have to understand this and the sooner you do, the better it is. When the flames of the first love doesn’t work out, you should have learned that sometimes two people who might have been right for each other, never worked out because they met at the wrong time. If you meet again, maybe you will get a second shot at your first flame. However, sometimes the timing is just never right.

6. The memories are always beautiful

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Even a decade down the line, your first flame will leave you with a tingling remembrance of a few happy memories. There are always fond memories of what your first love felt like. You should learn that memories are a great way of reliving some of the best times you had together. So, be happy for every person you have crossed paths with because they left you with some beautiful lessons and experiences that will make you a better person.

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7. Don’t trust blindly

This is a gem of a lesson that your first flame probably taught you. When love touches the chords of your heart for the very first time, you might believe every word of what they say. Your eyes are so tinted with the colors of love that every lie looks true to you. You never even consider doubting them because you don’t think they will lie. All these beautiful thoughts don’t always become reality, and if your heart has been broken, you will know trust can be fragile. You will have learned that blind trust fetches no benefit.

8. Everything happens for a reason

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Another beautiful lesson that you must have realized is that everything happens for a reason, even if the reason isn’t clear enough. You should understand and accept the different phases of life that you go through. Always believe that there is a greater force in life that governs your existence. You have to believe that there is a greater goodness waiting to happen and this wave of hope and positivity can fetch you more rewards than you ever thought possible. This is one precious lesson you should always remember.

9. Bad endings can still give good memories

If your first love ended on a bad note and you are no longer in touch with your first flame, it doesn’t mean that there are no good memories of the time you spent together. Your first love teaches you that people may change, but memories never do. Even now, when you are reading this, did you automatically think of your first love? That is exactly what we mean by bad endings but good memories. Smile, because it brought you where you are today!

10. Life goes on

Time and tide wait for no one. Your first love will teach you that life is not about stopping. No matter how naïve you were or even how deep your love was, it made you stronger in the end. Life kept going on, and it always will. Truly, we are all puppets in this show of life. So, make sure that this journey is something that you can always cherish because people will come and go throughout your life.

11. Promises break, so do people

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Oh, this is a bad one and it leaves your heart sore. Remember those long wintery nights where you had no one to hug but your lonely pillow? Yes, those nights made you stronger and reminded you that promises can always be broken. However, love lessons help you gain strength and learn many important lessons over time. After all, what doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger.

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12. Be-you-tiful

If what you had was love, you will know that love is all about feeling beautiful, and trust us, it has nothing to do with how you look, your skin tone, how much you weigh, or even the languages you speak. Love is a feeling that breaks all barriers and restrictions, and it is something that is done with the heart and ends up feeding your soul in the most beautiful ways. So, one of the best love lessons you must have learned is that life is about being true to yourself because that is what being beautiful feels like.

Do you agree with our well-thought and carefully analyzed pointers for love lessons that every first flame teaches? Of course, life is a journey of experiences and the list will keep growing further.

Have something to add or do you disagree with us about something on the list? Have a first love story that will ruffle our hearts or do you simply crave to be heard? We are all ears. Hugs and love to you!

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12 Love Lessons Only Your First Love Can Teach You
Your first love is something you can never forget. Whether it was a hit or a miss, you come out of your first love with some love lessons that are valuable.
Shruti Fatehpuria

Shruti Fatehpuria

I am a misfit software engineer who left her work in the corporate world to pursue the insatiable quest to write. A freelance worker by the day, I choose to dream with eyes open wide. I have conversations with myself where I talk of the possibilities that life can hold. Too many wishes made on empty starless nights ensure that there are various dreams yet to be lived. I am working my way as I am on a quest to find myself. The greatest journeys are indeed the ones that lie within. I am yet to live my story because right now, the book is full of too many apostrophes and too many commas. The words are jumbled until the right one fits the puzzle. I don't believe in perfection because too many times, it is imperfection which paints the perfect story. I am verbose and I aim at living life in full swing until a speed breaker curbs the tantalizing pace with which I wish to conquer the dreams that would otherwise be too big for the not-so-tiny shoes I wear. Blessed with a lot of chubby fat, I love going the extra mile to conquer my extra dreams with an extra advice after all, we all love a little extra. A die-hard shopaholic, you can often find me laughing on serious stuff inappropriately at wrong times (unintentionally).