To be fun and passionate is often considered romantic, but being shifty and flaky is certainly a major turn-off. I once dated a girl who ended things out of the blue. We tried to remain friends and I couldn’t fail to notice how she hopped from one relationship to another. I used to think that she was just being impulsive, but now when I know that she is a relationship hopper, I feel pretty sad for her.

Relationship hoppers not only harm a perfectly healthy relationship but might leave you with a broken heart without closure. If you have been involved with way too many people and have ended things just before closing the deal, chances are that you could be one among them as well. Here are a few traits that all relationship hoppers have in common.

1. They don’t like the idea of marriage

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They have a negative perception of marriage and don’t like to be tied down with all those responsibilities.

2. … but they don’t like the idea of being single either

At the same time, they can’t be alone either. They want to be with someone with whom they can spend some good time without settling down.

3. They feel that their life is not interesting enough

And to spice it up, they want to try something new and interesting. Relationship hopping seems like the best way to escape the monotony.

4. They are afraid of commitment

Most of the relationship hoppers have a commitment phobia. They can’t settle for anything ordinary and assume that a committed life will make things uninteresting.

5. They are not patient

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They don’t like to wait or support their partner if they are having a hard time. They want immediate results and if they don’t get it, they simply leave.

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6. They take pride in collecting a jar of hearts

For them, breakups are an everyday affair. A few of them take pride in breaking a perfectly healthy relationship and leave the other person damaged.

7. … because they are damaged as well

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They cause heartbreaks on the go because there is a part of them that is a little damaged too. They only repeat the pattern over and over again, without going anywhere at all.

8. They assume they can’t be happy

Because someone once told them that they can never have their “happily ever after” and they have engraved that idea on their soul way too seriously.

9. They are often considered a flirt

Since most relationship hoppers try too hard and are seen with a lot of people, they are often considered as a hopeless flirt.

10. They are picky

They are extremely choosy about what they want and how they want. If you can’t give them the exact thing that they have in mind, they might get disappointed way too soon.

11. They are not ready to change

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They like the way they are and how their life is going. If you would ask them to change, they will simply find a reason to escape.

12. They are confused

Some people might think they are lonely while others might think they are a flirt, but the truth is that they are just confused. They don’t know what they want. Until they get what they think they need, they simply keep hopping from one relationship to another.

The next time you see a relationship hopper, look for these traits and be sure of what you are getting into. You can find your share of happiness. You just need to believe in yourself!

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