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12 Things It’s Alright To Change About Yourself For Someone You Love

If you are a few months into your relationship, you might notice that you begin to change yourself to a certain extent. Your friends and family may even point this out to you. You might face criticism or sarcasm because you are not the exact same person that you were before, but trust us; it is okay to change a few things for someone you love dearly.

Many of the changes that occur in a person when they enter a relationship are not exactly changes. They might be new interests or hobbies that you acquire over time. You do not need to be regretful about these changes because it is always good to explore and understand someone else’s world. If that someone else happens to be your significant other, then why not change yourself for them? After all, you got into the relationship to fit into each other’s world, right?

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Some of the changes can also be very beneficial for you. They might make you a nicer and healthier person. Here are some of the changes you might make in a relationship that will improve your life.

1. Your notion of love

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You may have been thinking that you are going to have the most ideal relationship and that everything would always be smooth sailing until your first big fight with your partner. But, after the fight, you two only got closer and there is no denying the extra strength that your bond now has. If this has changed your notion of love, then what is the problem?

You are only getting acquainted with another idea of love, and this can only help your overall outlook and perspective on life and love. Then why not give it a shot?

2. Making a slight compromise on hygiene habits

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You might be the messy person and your partner might be a perfectionist about cleanliness. This is not necessarily a bad thing. If you better your hygiene habits, you are only going to be a cleaner person overall. There is no end to how much positive energy this brings to your life.

Similarly, if you are the one who is obsessed with cleanliness and your partner is not as clean and organized as you, there is no harm in letting some of it go. You cannot expect your partner to be just like you; therefore you should compromise a little bit and relax a bit to keep things harmonious.

3. Eating preferences

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Everyone has different eating habits and preferences, and being introduced to new styles of food can only help you in the long run because you get to try new things and expand your horizons. You are not even changing yourself for someone you love; this is actually a change that you make for yourself.

4. Introducing healthier habits

Quitting smoking because your partner told you to, making a few changes in your diet, or drinking only on weekends as opposed to your regular routine of drinking five days a week are not changes that you will regret. It is great to be healthy, no matter what the reasoning is. If you are feeling motivated to become healthier because of your partner, there is absolutely no problem with that!

5. Movies and TV shows that you watch

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Well, when the two of you are together, it is not really about the show – it is also about the time that you are spending together. If you two are watching something only one person likes, it is not really a problem because there is going to be another time when you are going to be watching what you like and they will still sit next to you during that time.

6. Interests in other activities

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So your partner is a musician, and you might not be all that into music. If you develop an interest in music and also start to love it, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Now you have a new interest, which is also a great way to relieve stress, so it’s definitely a positive.

If you hear your friends complain about your newly acquired taste for music, just offer a simple explanation and keep doing your own thing. Your happiness is more important than what other people think about you and your choices.

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7. Improving your routine

If you find someone who is willing to help you out with your regular routine and wants to ensure that you are not wasting time – then why not? Understanding the importance of time and making adjustments where necessary is always a good change.

8. The amount of time you spend with your friends


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When you were single, you probably spent most of your time with your friends. But you are one half of a couple now, and it is going to cost you time and effort to ensure to maintain your friendships as well as your relationship. You should find the right balance between spending alone time with your partner and still seeing your friends.

Being in a relationship will obviously cost you time spent with friends, but hopefully, they will be understanding of your situation and will be supportive of your relationship.

9. Your sleep cycles

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Relationships need romance in order to make them last for the long run. It’s important for you to make time for each other, and this can get difficult if you aren’t living together or have to spend long periods of time apart. Making time for a last minute date or a late night phone call might reduce your nightly sleep, but will also help strengthen your relationship.

10. The way you dress

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You are in a relationship, and you want to look good for your partner – there is nothing wrong with that. Go ahead and buy those clothes that your special someone likes to see you in and dress up for them.

They will love you for putting the extra effort in for them. You will also see a change in the way they dress up for you.

11. Your social habits

You and your partner might be mismatched socially. One person might be very outgoing while the other might be much more introverted. But if both of you are making sure to accommodate each other’s social habits, then this is a great step as a couple.

People who have known you for a long time might tell you that you shouldn’t change this, but this is a compromise that is definitely fair for both of you as long as the relationship stays balanced.

12. Your tone of speaking or arguing

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In every relationship, differences of opinion are bound to pop up from time to time. The way you resolved conflicts in past relationships may not work in your current relationship. Changing the way you argue and discuss your issues is important to figure out.

After all, the best way to resolve matters is talking them out.

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While you try to ensure that your relationship is going well, you may have to change yourself and how you do certain things. Your partner is also going to do the same for you. Relationships are about give and take, and you will have to give as much as you want to receive, if not more.

No matter how much your family and friends may criticize you for making a few changes for your significant other, you will see that the only way to make it work is to make the little sacrifices. They don’t even seem like sacrifices because you are doing it out of happiness and love!

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Neha Baid

Neha Baid

A media graduate, Neha Baid is an always traveling freelance writer and editor. Aside from being an ardent reader, she is very passionate about traveling and cricket. A fan of the classic rock era of music, she believes that there is nothing that chocolate cannot fix. Food and exercise are also a perfect alternative.