Romance is underrated at times. To different people, it would signify completely different things. Romance can be downright cheesy for some, and platonic for some others. So, it totally depends on what you both like and consider to be romantic.
It’s funny how the idea of romance changes over time, and also how it means different things to men and women.
So, if you recall, you’d be able to go over a million things that you’d deem ‘romantic’ when you first started your relationship. I guess at that point, everything seemed new and interesting, with a certain mystery attached to it. You wanted to impress the other person and you were ready to go out of your way to do that, sometimes at the cost of making a fool of yourself. Buying thousands of red roses, or going out for fancy dinners, writing little love notes and what not.
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Then there were scenarios where you thought of something as romantic but your partner just didn’t get it. Say you wanted to watch a movie at home and cuddle with your partner, and they thought it was lame. Or you took your partner out for a walk in a park and they were literally tired! So whatever your idea of romance is, here are some ways that will help you get straight to your partner’s heart. These 12 things will teach you how to be romantic and sweep your partner off their feet.
1. Make little things count
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Life is about the several small things that bring you joy. They don’t always have to be big things or require huge amounts of money. So, stop expecting fancy things and considering them romantic. Something as small as an unexpected hug or a loving peck on the cheek is romantic enough. Or, perhaps an act of kindness towards your partner? Be happy with what you already have rather than expecting a bunch of impossible things from your partner. It’s all the little things that matter in the end. No one cares about how much money you spent on an engagement ring, but what matters is if you have been able to keep alive that promise you made to your partner with that ring. Focus on the small things – they are important.
2. Thoughtful gifts
You must have heard when people say, ‘It’s the thought that matters,’ when receiving gifts. Well, yes, nothing is beyond that though. Think of the reason why you’d think a certain gift is a perfect choice for your significant other. Think how it will be useful for them or let them know you were thinking about them when you got that present for them. If your partner loves a particular artist, make them a CD by downloading all the top numbers by that artist. Or if your partner is a sports enthusiast, take them out to a match when their favorite team is playing, or surprise them with a day spent on the field, playing some outdoor sports. Get their friends to join in the fun.
3. Talk about feelings
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Sometimes, all you need is to hear how the other person actually feels. So, talking to your partner will help you understand them better. You will be able to connect with them at an emotional level. Sit down, take time off your busy schedule, and just talk to each other and catch up. That’s one way to do it if you want to know how to be romantic. By communicating to each other, you’d also be able to understand each other well. Sometimes it’s nice to bring it all out and share your thoughts with one another.
4. Watch the gestures
Holding hands, cuddling on the couch, touching each other – are various gestures that are extremely romantic. Make use of them often. Over a period of time, couples complain that they are falling out of love, but what they are actually falling out of is their inability to express their feelings for each other. Remember, actions speak louder than words.
5. Take time off
A break from monotony will refresh you both. It will add romance and spice up your life. A short holiday always rejuvenates your spirit. So, get away from all the stress and mundane things. Go on a vacation, even if it’s just for the weekend, or to a resort that is on the outskirts of your city. Sometimes it’s also important to take breaks individually. That time away from each other makes you want the other person more.
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6. Create and cherish memories
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Clicking snaps of each other or shooting fun videos of each other are a great way to cherish good times at a later date. Imagine that you find some really old photographs of the both of you when cleaning an old drawer. Doesn’t that make your heart melt? Sometimes these old pictures can bring in a lot of spark; so make new memories every day or as often as possible. I know it sounds silly, but it will make you laugh at a later date.
7. Be patient and nice to each other
No relationship is perfect and no person is flawless. So, appreciate the good in each other and ignore the bad. Revel in your similarities and appreciate your differences. Learn to be more patient with each other. Forgiveness counts; so when the other person makes a mistake, don’t shun them or make them feel worse. Forgive them and show love. Trust us, it’s just one of the ways we can think of to be romantic!
8. Don’t stop the courtship
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Don’t completely stop doing things that first brought you both together. Go on dates, take an activity class together, work out together, or go for long walks. Whatever it is that you used to do when you first began dating, do those things often. At least try to do them once a month. Life changes, but don’t let some of these little yet significant things change. This will keep the romance alive.
9. Bring out the creativity
The art of letter writing has been long lost, and there’s no better way to be romantic than writing a heartfelt love letter to your significant other. Pull out a sheet of paper, write something sweet, and give it to your partner. Handwritten love notes are the best! Make a coupon book and offer various services that your partner likes (at your cost, of course!). From a simple head massage to doing some of their chores, a coupon book is a great way to express your feelings, while making the other person feel on top of the world. Get creative and surprise each other.
10. Give new and genuine compliments
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‘You look great,’ ‘I love how that shirt brings out the color in your eyes,’ or ‘You are so cute, I could just eat you!’ may be things you tell your partner once in a while. Say something new that will make them really happy. Something that isn’t what you would always observe about them, give them new compliments. It’s a great way to be romantic.
11. Doing the things they love
Maybe Game of Thrones is not your cup of tea, or long drives really bore you because of the city’s traffic and other idiotic drivers who have no sense of traffic rules. But if your partner enjoys something that you don’t, you could sometimes give in and surprise them. Make them feel loved and show that you care for their interests too, like they do yours.
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12. Saying ‘I love you’
This never gets old. Say it all the time, every single day. You must say it to your partner every time they make you smile. And make sure you mean it when you say it. Send them text messages that simply read I love you. Or call them just to say that. It will surely make their day and melt their hearts.
You can’t go wrong with these tips on how to be romantic. So wait no more and start doing this. As mentioned earlier, romance is subjective to what each person thinks. You would know very well what your partner likes, so it’s that simple. Do what they like. Keep the spirit alive, and remember, it’s alright to be cheesy once in a while! So don’t shy away.
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