We may make excuses about why it won’t work out and what we really, absolutely ‘need’ in a relationship else it’s bound to fail but once you meet the one, your soul mate, all these preconceived notions about what your ideal significant other should be like, vanish. There is no more a ‘checklist’ that you need to tick off – of course, that doesn’t mean you are settling for less but in the process of falling for someone, we realize that the things we thought mattered a lot, in fact don’t matter at all.
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Things that don’t matter anymore when you’ve found the one
1. The ‘right’ timing
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Your life can be a total sh*tstorm – you just lost a job/are terribly busy at work, you are seeing a terrible person and thinking to yourself what the hell are you even doing with your life. But once this person walks into your life, you just find the time to accommodate them in your life, no matter how difficult it is.
2. Your ex
I’m sure we have all thought that we will never get over our ex. Do you remember how it was when you were trying for months not to call that sh*tty person you dated for those rare moments of gratification? Once your special person walks into your life, you don’t have the time to even think about your ex because you are so busy being in love with your person. Sorry, not sorry!
3. Good looks
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Do looks really matter in a relationship? I think not. I can be in an ugly sweater with holey leggings at the end of the day with no makeup on, and I know that my SO will love me as much as he does when I am in a red dress with perfect makeup on. Good looks don’t last, but a good nature does.
4. The number
He’s been with a few other people other than you and whether you like it or not, he is a certain way he is because of the past experiences he’s had. The people he’s been with is just that to you – a number. It doesn’t matter because he left them for a reason, and he’s with you now.
5. Things you generally hate
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You might hate waking up early in the morning, but you will do it for your boyfriend/girlfriend if they want to hike. You might hate when someone leaves up the toilet seat but you will live with it if your SO does it, and come to think of it as a goofy thing rather than you spitting lava. You tend to make your peace with little idiosyncrasies like these just for the sake of the warming happiness you get from just being around them!
6. What people think
People may think he or she is rude, or tell you that you can do so much better, but you are so past the point of caring what anyone else thinks that it doesn’t really matter anymore. What matters is that you are happy and loved. Screw the haters!
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7. The future
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Sounds so scary but in reality, sounds so much less scary with a partner in crime, no? Everything is so uncertain in life and the only certain, solid thing in your life is the person standing right beside you – the one person, your rock, you know is going to be there in the future, facing everything with you, no matter what.
And that’s the only thing that matters.
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