So you’ve been dating a while now, and yet you’re not sure if he wants a serious relationship with you or not? Men are notorious for giving off mixed signals, and it can be very frustrating to be at the receiving end of that. These mixed signals might throw you off your game, leading you to believe that he’s interested in something serious, while all he’s looking for is no-strings-attached hookup.
You should be honest with yourself when you see glaring red flags early on, that might clue you in on what’s going on in his head. However, if there are certain sure ways that will tell you whether or not he wants a real relationship with you. You just need to keep your eyes open along with keeping your womanly instincts honed.
Does he want a relationship with you? Find out for sure with these signs!
1. He wants to know you, the real you.
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When a man wants to take things to the next level, he sure wants to get to know you in all your messy, flawed, yet strong and independent glory. He wants to get to know the real you, the one you mostly hide from the world for fear of being hurt. He wants to know what makes you tick, what makes you angry, what makes you sad, what makes you deliriously happy. In short, he wants to know what kind of a person you are, so that he can build a life together.
He’s all about getting to know you on a much deeper level. What you like and dislike, your job, your aspirations, your dreams, your plans for the future, family, friends, and your past relationships. If he’s asking you too many of these questions that go beyond the superficial small talk and the accompanying fluff, then he sure wants to have a serious relationship with you.
2. He shares his dreams and goals with you.
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A man who sees a future with you, will share all about his dreams and goals for that future. This is his way of letting you know what he wants out of life, and to check if you’re game for it. However, if he doesn’t talk about his aspirations for the future, he probably wants to keep things simple and uncomplicated, and might not see it living past the hookup.
On the surface, sharing what he wants to achieve and looks forward to in the future might seem like a trivial thing in the grand scheme of things, but it’s his way of opening up to you, possibly even letting you in. When men have high ambitions and goals to achieve in their future, they are looking for a partner that is supportive. This is a sure sign that he wants to take things to the next level and would like to build a relationship with you.
3. He introduces you to friends and family.
If the man you’re dating can’t wait to introduce you to his friends and family, then that is one of the biggest indicators that he’s really interested in pursuing a serious relationship with you. This shows that he wants all the different parts of his world to be in harmony, and you figure in a significant role in there. It also means that he wants his friends and family to accept you and approve of you.
4. He values your opinions and ideas.
Men are notorious for shying away from either acknowledging or discussing their feelings. So if your man comes to you for support and succor when he’s dealing with something, then this is a surefire sign that he trusts you wholeheartedly, and that he values what you have to say. Not only for emotional issues, but even professional problems or other things he’s dealing with, if he comes to you for suggestions and input, then he sure feels that you can be counted upon in his times of distress. It also shows that he’s comfortable to be vulnerable with you. It’s way of showing you that wants to take things to the next level.
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5. He does what he says.
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He knows that actions speak louder than words, and that his actions will show you how he feels for you than words ever could. He always keeps his promises, whether it’s something small like remembering to call you at a certain time like he’d promised, or something big like being there for you when you need his support the most, even if it means cancelling a big meeting.
He does’t believe in playing mind games; instead, he wants to show you that he’s honest, committed, and that he’s a man of his word, no matter what. If this doesn’t tell you he wants to be with you for the long haul, I don’t know what will.
6. He stops seeing other people.
If you guys had agreed to keep it simple and casual in the beginning, if he’s serious about wanting a relationship with you, he’ll stop seeing other women. He won’t even have eyes to flirt with them or ogle at them. He is so enamored by you that he doesn’t need to look at anyone else. All he wants is you, to build a future with you, to bring to life a unique relationship, that is solely yours and his.
He knows that you’re the woman he wants to spend time with, make efforts to see you happy, and want to be exclusive with. If he feels so strongly about being in a relationship with you, he will definitely make it clear that he doesn’t want to pursue anything with others, and focus solely on you.
7. He spends tons of quality time with you.
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If the man you’re seeing wants a serious relationship with you, he is sure to be spending a lot of quality time with you. It’s not just quicky dates, but real, quality time, where you both get to have long conversations about everything and nothing, about what matters to you both, about what you want out of life and so on.
He won’t just want to get in your pants, but would like to get to know what makes you tick. He’s all for making it official that you two are going steady. He doesn’t simply spend time with you; in fact, he enjoys spending time with you. Whether it’s going out on a date, or discussing a book you both read recently, or even attending a cooking class because you both enjoy cooking, he’s game for it.
8. He makes you a priority.
One of the surest signs that a man wants a relationship with you is when he makes you a priority in his life. It’s not just about him making time for you, but that he cares about every aspect of your life. He’s protective towards you, and wants you to be happy and well. He’s there when you need him, whether it’s for something trivial or serious. If you need him, he’s there, if not with bells and whistles!
He’s whatever you him to be – a friend, a shoulder to cry on, a mentor, a hand to pull you up when you’re down, a lover, and a partner. If a man is there for you whenever you need him, it’s definitely his way of showing that he’s looking at your relationship as a long term thing, and not a casual one.
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9. He tells you he wants to settle down with you.
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Does he want a relationship? One hundred percent yes, if he tells you so! There is no surer sign of his commitment than when he opens his mouth and tells you that he wants to commit to you and wants to be with you. Any doubts, questions, or worries over what he wants from you will cease at once if he says this.
At this point, you can be sure that you two will be together, and how! Not only will his words reassure you about your relationship, his actions will support those words as well. If you’re on the same page as him, then there’s nothing stopping you from taking things to the next level and being happy. There’s nothing better than to know that a man you’re interested in shows you through his words and actions that all he wants is you.
When a man wants to date you exclusively, he will let you know. If he’s not the most expressive of guys, you can figure out by his actions about what he wants from you. However, if you’re unsure about a guy, do not play his games or you’ll regret your wasted energy and time, not to mention driving yourself crazy. Just move on and stay hopeful because there is a person who is just perfect for you, who fits in with all your imperfections, making you both perfect!
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