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Emma Watson is a feminist, not a man-hater

The girl with “a bossy sort of voice, lots of bushy brown hair, and rather large front teeth,” Hermione Granger, aka Emma Watson, was just eleven years old, when she started her ‘magical education’ at Hogwarts School of Witchcraft and Wizardry in the Harry Potter series of movies. She became an instant hit and was lauded for her portrayal of the insufferable know-it-all in the Harry Potter movies. It didn’t hurt that besides being a good performer, she was beautiful too.

Today, at 24, this stunning British actress is a self-proclaimed feminist. Six months ago, she was appointed the UN Women Goodwill Ambassador, and on Saturday, she launched the HeForShe program, which aims to enlist men and boys in a campaign to end gender inequality. Speaking at the UN Headquarters in New York, the actress addressed the gathering about her own beliefs and why she considers herself a feminist.

emma watson at the launch of heforshe program in new york

Emma Watson at the launch of HeForShe program in New York

“I started questioning gender-based assumptions when at eight I was confused at being called “bossy,” because I wanted to direct the plays we would put on for our parents – but the boys were not.” Adding, “I decided I was a feminist and this seemed uncomplicated to me. But my recent research has shown me that feminism has become an unpopular word.”

She also clarified that being a feminist didn’t naturally make one a man-hater: “Apparently I am among the ranks of women whose expressions are seen as too strong, too aggressive, isolating, anti-men, and unattractive.” She went on to question, “Why is this word such an uncomfortable one?”

The actress’ call for all men to take a greater role in achieving gender equality, and why this is the time to act, is made clear in her passionate speech, which is here in its entirety:

Today we are launching a campaign called “HeForShe.”

I am reaching out to you because I need your help. We want to end gender inequality—and to do that we need everyone to be involved.

This is the first campaign of its kind at the UN: we want to try and galvanize as many men and boys as possible to be advocates for gender equality. And we don’t just want to talk about it, but make sure it is tangible.

I was appointed six months ago and the more I have spoken about feminism the more I have realized that fighting for women’s rights has too often become synonymous with man-hating. If there is one thing I know for certain, it is that this has to stop.

For the record, feminism by definition is: “The belief that men and women should have equal rights and opportunities. It is the theory of the political, economic and social equality of the sexes.”

I started questioning gender-based assumptions when at eight I was confused at being called “bossy,” because I wanted to direct the plays we would put on for our parents—but the boys were not.

When at 14 I started being sexualized by certain elements of the press.

When at 15 my girlfriends started dropping out of their sports teams because they didn’t want to appear “muscly.”

When at 18 my male friends were unable to express their feelings.

I decided I was a feminist and this seemed uncomplicated to me. But my recent research has shown me that feminism has become an unpopular word.

Apparently I am among the ranks of women whose expressions are seen as too strong, too aggressive, isolating, anti-men and, unattractive.

Why is the word such an uncomfortable one?

I am from Britain and think it is right that as a woman I am paid the same as my male counterparts. I think it is right that I should be able to make decisions about my own body. I think it is right that women be involved on my behalf in the policies and decision-making of my country. I think it is right that socially I am afforded the same respect as men. But sadly I can say that there is no one country in the world where all women can expect to receive these rights.

No country in the world can yet say they have achieved gender equality.

These rights I consider to be human rights but I am one of the lucky ones. My life is a sheer privilege because my parents didn’t love me less because I was born a daughter. My school did not limit me because I was a girl. My mentors didn’t assume I would go less far because I might give birth to a child one day. These influencers were the gender equality ambassadors that made who I am today. They may not know it, but they are the inadvertent feminists who are. And we need more of those.  And if you still hate the word—it is not the word that is important but the idea and the ambition behind it. Because not all women have been afforded the same rights that I have. In fact, statistically, very few have been.

In 1997, Hilary Clinton made a famous speech in Beijing about women’s rights. Sadly many of the things she wanted to change are still a reality today.

But what stood out for me the most was that only 30 per cent of her audience were male. How can we affect change in the world when only half of it is invited or feel welcome to participate in the conversation?

Men—I would like to take this opportunity to extend your formal invitation. Gender equality is your issue too.

Because to date, I’ve seen my father’s role as a parent being valued less by society despite my needing his presence as a child as much as my mother’s.

I’ve seen young men suffering from mental illness unable to ask for help for fear it would make them look less “macho”—in fact in the UK suicide is the biggest killer of men between 20-49; eclipsing road accidents, cancer and coronary heart disease. I’ve seen men made fragile and insecure by a distorted sense of what constitutes male success. Men don’t have the benefits of equality either.

We don’t often talk about men being imprisoned by gender stereotypes but I can see that that they are and that when they are free, things will change for women as a natural consequence.

If men don’t have to be aggressive in order to be accepted women won’t feel compelled to be submissive. If men don’t have to control, women won’t have to be controlled.

Both men and women should feel free to be sensitive. Both men and women should feel free to be strong… It is time that we all perceive gender on a spectrum not as two opposing sets of ideals.

If we stop defining each other by what we are not and start defining ourselves by what we are—we can all be freer and this is what HeForShe is about. It’s about freedom.

I want men to take up this mantle. So their daughters, sisters and mothers can be free from prejudice but also so that their sons have permission to be vulnerable and human too—reclaim those parts of themselves they abandoned and in doing so be a more true and complete version of themselves.

You might be thinking who is this Harry Potter girl? And what is she doing up on stage at the UN. It’s a good question and trust me I have been asking myself the same thing. I don’t know if I am qualified to be here. All I know is that I care about this problem. And I want to make it better.

And having seen what I’ve seen—and given the chance—I feel it is my duty to say something. English statesman Edmund Burke said: “All that is needed for the forces of evil to triumph is for enough good men and women to do nothing.”

In my nervousness for this speech and in my moments of doubt I’ve told myself firmly—if not me, who, if not now, when. If you have similar doubts when opportunities are presented to you I hope those words might be helpful.

Because the reality is that if we do nothing it will take 75 years, or for me to be nearly 100, before women can expect to be paid the same as men for the same work. 15.5 million girls will be married in the next 16 years as children. And at current rates it won’t be until 2086 before all rural African girls will be able to receive a secondary education.

If you believe in equality, you might be one of those inadvertent feminists I spoke of earlier.

And for this I applaud you.

We are struggling for a uniting word but the good news is we have a uniting movement. It is called HeForShe. I am inviting you to step forward, to be seen to speak up, To be the he for she. And to ask yourself if not me, who, if not now when.

Thank you.

Watch the video here:

emma watson with un secretary general ban ki-moon, his wife ban soon-taek, and actor kiefer sutherland

Emma Watson with UN Secretary General Ban Ki-Moon, his wife Ban Soon-Taek, and actor Kiefer Sutherland

The HeForShe campaign has as its supporters, actors such as Matt Damon, Antonio Banderas, Kiefer Sutherland, and Patrick Stewart, and South African Nobel peace laureate, Archbishop Desmond Tutu.

Story Update on September 24th, 2014

After her maiden speech about gender equality at the UN Headquarters in New York, Emma Watson was threatened with the release of naked pictures, from the internet forum 4chan. This forum 4chan, is believed to be behind the recent release of nude photographs of celebrities such as Kate Upton, Kim Kardashian, and Jennifer Lawrence. The forum even set up a picture of Emma crying, and ‘countdown’ with the message, ‘Emma you are next,’ in a bid to threaten the actress for revealing her feminist tendencies in her speech. And now it has been confirmed that the threat was an elaborate hoax and a PR stunt by Rantic.

Some of the comments following the threat are downright abusive and vulgar. One of the comments on the 4chan board read, “That feminist bitch Emma is going to show the world she is as much of a whore as any woman … she makes stupid feminist speeches at UN, and now her nudes will be online, HAHAHAHAHAHAHAH.”

When the nude photographs of various celebrities were leaked online a few weeks ago, Emma tweeted in defense of the stars, saying: “Even worse than seeing women’s privacy violated on social media is reading the accompanying comments that show such a lack of empathy.”

Being a woman, that too a famous one, seems like a crime. On top of that, add feminist tendencies, and you’ve got a ticking time bomb, ready to explode. They are almost considered public property, to do with as you please; to abuse as you please; to snap their pictures and comment on their body parts as you please. This objectification and cyber abuse shows nothing but misogyny and their very small brains. Just because men have a Y chromosome, doesn’t make them any special, nor does the lack of one make women any less special. This recent threat and the scathing, vulgar comments on Emma Watson just goes to prove Lewis’ law: “Comments on any article about feminism justify feminism.”

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Chaitra Ramalingegowda

Chaitra Ramalingegowda

I fell in love with storytelling long before I knew what it was. Love well written stories, writing with passion, baking lip-smacking-finger-licking chocolate cakes, engaging movies, and home-cooked food. A true work-in-progress and a believer in the idiom 'all those who wander are not lost'. Twitter: @ChaitraRlg