There is basically no point to any relationship if you don’t talk to each other. When you meet a person, you only get to know them better when you effectively communicate with them. As a result, you become closer to each other, and your likes, dislikes, similarities, habits, and beliefs can lead to a wonderful relationship with that person.
Yet as relationships progress, and as couples get to know more and more about each other, the kind of communication in relationships also undergoes a change, and words slowly start to become redundant. This does not mean that you have run out of things to talk about. No. When you and your partner start to use gestures and looks to communicate things to each other, it suggests a deep-rooted level of understanding. Rest assured, this takes time to happen – it does not occur during the first few stages of your relationship – and cannot be forced. Here are 15 ways in which couples engaged in a healthy relationship can have entire conversations without saying a word.
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1. Learning new things about each other
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The more time couples spend with each other, the more they get to know about the little quirks, strange habits, and nuances about each other. Their love, concern, and trust is demonstrated when they put that knowledge into effect and go out of their way to take care of their partners. Intimate communication in relationships is facilitated not through words, but mainly through actions, which we will see more of below.
2. Making random eye contact
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Not only do couples look into each other’s eyes when they are speaking, as most people do, but they also make random eye contact to share an intimate moment even in the midst of the rowdiest, noisiest crowd. Eye contact and secret smiles can speak volumes, and sometimes even communicate things words cannot possibly express.
3. Having inside jokes no one else will get
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Laughing at things that only the two of you understand is one of the most intimate ways in which couples communicate. You may be watching TV together, or present at some gathering when you hear someone talk about a song, or, say, a movie, and immediately associate it with some other memory that you have shared with your partner. You search out each other’s eyes and steal a moment you could never possibly have with anyone else. If that isn’t true love, what is?
4. Letting your guard down
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Speaking with abandon is one of the best ways couples communicate with each other. It is their way of showing trust and security and complete submission. Not keeping secrets, not deleting messages from your phone, not modifying the truth, and other such habits establish a very intimate connection between two individuals.
5. When sadness is felt rather than expressed
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When you are in a healthy relationship, you understand each other completely, to the extent that you don’t need words to communicate to each other that you are mentally down. You understand each other’s lapse into unhappiness immediately, and that influences your own happiness too. After a point, words become unnecessary when you have to let your partner know that you are sad.
6. Sitting in comfortable (and not awkward) silences
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Silences between most people can get really awkward, really fast. When it is difficult to keep a conversation going, you lapse into these quiet, silent phases that make you want to bury yourself in the ground! However, couples who are in a healthy relationship can stay in each other’s presence for hours without speaking a word, because it feels like the most natural thing in the world. It is not only a way couples communicate without words, but this also communicates a lot to others about what their dynamic is like.
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7. Holding hands unconsciously
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Even though you do it with a lot of people, it is undeniable that holding hands is one of the most intimate gestures for couples. During the first few months of your relationship, every touch gets you excited and enamored, but that gets replaced with a comfortable accustomedness after some time. You become used to their presence, and touching them is the most natural thing in the world, so much so that you don’t even notice when you reach out. Whether you are trying to comfort them, or show support, or just want them close, all it takes is holding their hand. No words needed.
8. Getting drunk with each other
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A beer or glass of wine very often turns into several, and before you know it, you get drunk out of your mind. One golden rule about drinking is that you are allowed to get drunk only when you are with people you can trust completely. Just getting drunk with your better half is a way of commuting your trust to them that you couldn’t possibly execute when you are sober.
9. Holding each other close
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These are moments that you cannot possibly share with any other individual. Sometimes, when couples who know each other inside and out feel that their partners are going through trying times, or feel sad for no reason at all, they hold them close for the longest time possible. The simple but warming gesture tells them that you are there for them much more effectively than words ever could.
10. Sleeping together
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One reason why people crave relationships with their very own special someone is because there are very few things in this world more comfortable than your lover’s arms around you when you are asleep. Whether you snuggle, spoon, or cuddle with your partner at night, or even taking a nap with them, such physical intimacy makes up a substantial part of your relationship. Although you may not be conscious of it at the time, it is a form of communicating your security to them.
11. Bodies and actions speak when making love
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When couples are on the same mental wavelength, they don’t find the need to constantly reassure each other during one of the most primal and most instinctive activities that they engage in. All it takes is the right touch, the right caress, and the right movement to show your partner that you love them mind, body, and soul.
12. Caresses and gestures
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Couples fight. Period. The longer you spend time with each other, the more things you realize you agree or disagree on, and hence arguments and quarrels become inevitable. While fights can get bitter with the harsh exchange of words, what comes after is what counts. A soft caress or a nice dinner for your partner as an apology, or a bunch of flowers on your way home from work, is everything you need to say what words cannot convey. It’s just another way of how communication in relationships occur.
13. Making small sacrifices and compromises
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Whether it is a decision regarding what to order at a restaurant, or where to move to for the new job, couples who are in healthy, mutually rewarding relationships always make sacrifices and compromises with each other without making a big deal out of it. This is completely out of love, and not some warped sense of obligation or power exchange. No words are needed in this case to demonstrate the strength of such a giving relationship.
14. Cooking with each other
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Although cooking is slightly odd compared to the rest of the points on the list, it is nonetheless one of the cutest ways for couples to communicate without talking constantly. One usually preps while the other cooks, making for some of the most playfully intimate and emotionally loaded moments that you can spend with each other. The best part is that there is minimum exchange of words.
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15. Writing notes and letters
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You might not consider yourself a Shakespeare, but small notes, and sometimes, when you are feeling extra romantic, love letters are some of the most effective means of communicating with your partner without speaking to them directly. Also, there are very few things as personal and special as hand-written notes, even if they say simple things like “I’ve left for work,” or “I’ve made breakfast,” or “I love you.”
Couples who are very serious about their relationship get to know each other on a level that is impossible for anyone else to comprehend. As a result, most of the time, they do not need words to talk to each other and show each other that they care. Gestures, actions, and even complete inactivity sometimes become far more eloquent than direct speech. Sometimes, this reveals the more personal, primal, and honest side of a person, which only goes on to strengthen the relationship between two individuals.
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