A lot of guys approach me at the gym, but boy, do they creep the hell out of me! So, in public service, I have decided to write this post on how to approach a girl at the gym without scaring her. Yes, you are welcome.
Approaching a girl is difficult, I get it, but it doesn’t have to be that hard if you decide to treat her as another human being. Even on the internet, though you are behind a screen and could be anonymous, why not treat the human across as a human and not a bot! They can see you, okay?
Suggested read: 14 Clever (And Not So Clever) Ways Of Asking Her Out
Having said that, even for guys with the best of intentions, it can be tough to ask a girl out, because of all the crap that the rest of the folks have dumped on the dating world.
Of all the places that you can ask a girl out, a gym is definitely one of the hardest. However, with this post, everything is about to get really easy.
One thing you have to keep in mind: Women go to gyms to exercise, unlike men (in case you took offence to that comment, please recall why you are here!). Women don’t want another stalker on their list, and so your first job is to be as less stalker-y as possible. If you have ogled at her for six months, and now are planning to approach her, then buddy this article won’t help you. Also, GET OUT!
If you really want to be friends with her, or want to get to know her better, then keep reading.
How to be as polite as humanly possible when approaching a girl at the gym
(Or how to approach a girl like a normal human being!)
Let us get the priorities straight here: Politeness and respectfulness. These are the only two wingmen you will ever need! No, it does not automatically push you into the dreaded friendzone (which, by the way, does not exist). It actually makes her look at you as a fellow human.
As soon as she finds out you are trying to hit on her, she is going to do everything in her power to not talk to you or may be even change her gym membership. So be careful.
Approaching a girl at the gym, the right way
- Try to muster the right amount of confidence
Like I said, the “right” amount. Going overboard is not going to help, nor is not having any. If you need to, then give yourself the pep talk, and then go to the battlefield. You cannot come off as a nervous wreck if you want this to work. Also, coming across as an overconfident person, will be read as a warning flag.
- Do NOT stare for Christ’s sake!
No staring, how many times do I have to repeat this? Do not stare at the woman, don’t even stare at her reflection. It is very creepy to have someone stare at you when you are exercising, or for that matter doing anything other than performing. If she wearing gym wear it is because she is at the gym, it is not a license for you to drool!
- Don’t barge in
Wait for the woman to finish her routine before approaching her. Don’t interrupt her when she is working out, it is bad manners God! Your cue to go and talk to her is when she goes to get the water or when she takes a break.
Your approach should be as natural as possible, not like you read a thousand-word article on how to approach a girl at the gym and then went to talk to her (let this be our little secret, okay?)
- Read and understand her body language
This again in no way means staring at her body! If this girl seems like someone who would be open to small talk, only then you are likely to have a good chance at talking to her. If she doesn’t seem all that crazy about small talk, then don’t scare the girl further.
Don’t try tapping on her shoulder or scaring her from behind. You should not do that to anybody, for that matter!
- Dodge pick-up lines!
I have no clue who invented pick-up, but the day I find that dog, I am going to do something about it, I haven’t planned it yet. Even if a woman is interested in a spontaneous one-night stand, she is turned off by pick-up lines, trust me! So there is no point using them.
- Be truthful
Be as honest as possible. Say for instance she catches you checking her out, well be honest about it and tell her that you were, and that you couldn’t help it. Now again don’t say it like a leech for crying out loud!
Tell her that you have noticed her, and that you are attracted to her or that you would want to be friends with her. But if she says no, be human enough to accept it gracefully!
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