How do you get over someone who has been the sun around which your world revolved all these years? How do you get over someone who you have loved more than you ever loved anyone else? Some things are easier said than done, but it is necessary to do them not for anyone else, but for yourself.
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Moving on from a relationship in the healthiest way is what we are going to talk about in today’s post. If you have just had a break-up or are planning to have one soon or know someone who is going through a bitter split, then this article is meant to help you-all by making the transition from being a couple to again becoming single as smooth as possible.
Relationships involve a lot of struggles. There are many a times that you have to sacrifice, compromise, put someone else’s desires and dreams above yours. But the toughest part about a relationship is ending it. Moving on from your relationship can have disastrous effects on your mental health if you don’t do it the right way.
Getting over someone does not have to be that hard. The trick is to discover a path that is healthy instead of a path that leads to self-destruction. Instead of focusing on coping mechanisms, you need to find real ways of moving on.
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Realize that moving on requires due time
Don’t expect to feel like your real self in just a day or a week or even a month. Realize that this is a process that takes due course of time. Also, understand that the process is not the same for everyone. While for some it might take a few hours, for others it can take up to a decade or even more. Hearts breaks are painful, hitting the emotional rock bottom is tough. Healing that wound is going to take time. Steve Maraboli once said,
“The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.”
Once you acknowledge this, you can move on to focusing on the more important aspect of moving on: How to make the process easy no matter how long it takes. You need to plan how you are going to spend this time. Are you going to loathe yourself, your partner, the person who brought the two of your together, the person who caused the two of you to drift apart, or are you going to spend this healing time working on your emotional health, building it from scratch, making it stronger?
Moving on from a relationship in healthiest way
There are two ways of doing almost everything: the right way and the wrong way. The wrong way is usually easy, which the right one is hard, but you can rest assured that if you choose the difficult but the right way, there is light at the end of the tunnel.
Here are some tips from our relationship experts that might help you:
- It is okay to feel
Don’t try to hide the pain and the emotions away. That will only delay the process of recovery. Burying the pain further down will only make you bitter. In the long run, you will end up feeling worse. If you are feeling heart-broken and horrible, the feel it in its totality. Allow yourself to cry, break things, tear photographs, if that makes you feel better. I, usually, scream, that really helps!
- Rebounds are a bad idea
A lot of couples give in to the temptation of getting back with their ex, which is not such a good idea, if you are trying to recover. The rebound is only one of the hundred quick fixes, which is sure to cause more harm. It is a complete waste of time.
- Pour your heart out to your closest people
Talking to the people we love about our deepest fears and about our broken heart helps in a number of ways. Firstly, you know that your folks will not judge you because they love you, that makes it easier for you to confess to them even the terrible details. Secondly, it is more than likely that at least one of these people has an experience similar to yours, and they will be very honest with you about their healing process. Thirdly, speaking about your problems is a way of organizing the thoughts in your head, which gives you greater clarity. This, in turn, makes it easier for you to find the solution to your problem.
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- Remove your ex from your life
This is the toughest step on this guide, but once you tick it off the list, the going gets easy thereon. You need to get as away as you possibly can from your ex. Delete their phone number/s, block them on social media, stop going to restaurants or cafes that they usually visit. Make sure you don’t bump into them for at least a year.
- Start working on your physical health
Usually exercising and taking care of your physical self, can do a great deal of good for your mental health. Exercise is not only a great distraction, but also helps produce endorphins that put you in a great mood. Set mini workout goals for yourself, and as you achieve them, you will be filled with a sense of accomplishment which will help you build your self-esteem again.
- Start working on your mental well-being
“I will breathe. I will think of solutions. I will not let my worry control me. I will not let my stress level break me. I will simply breathe. And it will be okay. Because I don’t quit.”
– Shayne McClendon
At this point in the recovery process, you need to make conscious efforts to make sure your mind does not fill up with negativity. You cannot let such disastrous thoughts rankle, if you want to recover and get over the relationship. One way of averting negative thoughts is to think positive ones and stuff our brain with the latter so that there is no more space for any kind of negativity.
- If you think it is necessary, then see a therapist
There are many of us who cannot work through our pain and emotions on our own, and that is very reason therapists exist. If you need help, then seek it. It will only be stupid to not do that.
- Write in a journal
Writing in a journal every day can help you think things better by giving you more clarity, and allowing you to see things that you have been thinking all this while, on paper. That also helps you take better decisions by allowing you to look at the problem from different angles. There are many things that we may not be able to tell our friends, you can write them down on your journal, and then give it to your therapist, so that they don’t miss out on any information. Remember, your therapist needs to know everything so that they can help you effectively.
To know how to move on from a relationship in the healthiest way possible will help you a lot in life where we are always moving on from something or the other. Learning how to say goodbye in a graceful way, makes our hellos more beautiful.
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