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11 Ways To Know If You Are Doing The ‘Being Single’ Thing Right

Being single in the new thing! We belong to a generation that is quite particular about the notion of finding themselves. Too often, we fall in and out of love, only to regret it in the end. I have been through my share of relationships and it was after a long time I realized that I didn’t need anyone else to define me. I am genuinely happy now and have never been so content with my life.

Lately, there are a lot of people who have started to realize that at the end of the day, it is our happiness that matters the most. If you are happy by staying single, then there is nothing else that matters. Though, there are also quite a few who simply wants to stay single for the sake of it, and deep within, they crave to be in a relationship. Being single is not a statement. It is a way of living. Chances are that you might not be able to understand the lifestyle. You could be simply dragging yourself from one day to another, hoping to change your life.

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If you think you are single and rocking it, then hop on! These proven ways will let you know if you are doing it the right way or not. Though, there is no exact way to measure it. Only you can know if you are happy with your life or not, but these signs will certainly come handy to you and will make you realize if “being single” is for you or not.

1. You are putting yourself first

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Okay! This might sound a little selfish, but what’s the point of being single if you are not putting yourself first? There is a fine line between being selfish and knowing your own worth. You should never settle for anything less than you deserve. Being single will teach you the exact thing. If you know what you want and are not ready to compromise for anything less than you deserve, then you are definitely killing it, my friend!

2. You have more time to follow your dreams

This is one of the best things about being single. You will have more time to follow your hopes and aspirations. Gradually, you realize that you can do absolutely anything in this world. You would be more driven and won’t let others distract you anymore.

You know you can make your dreams come true, if only you push your limits. You become unafraid and are ready to take a leap of faith to follow your passion. You become more passionate about your life and realize the significance of having the kind of dreams that keeps us awake.

3. You have an idea about your future

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A lot of people associate singles with those who have no idea where their life is going. You need to prove them wrong by having a perfect blueprint of your future. Being single will give you more time to work on your plans. Utilize it in the right way and lay a perfect map regarding your future. Just because you are single, doesn’t mean that you are not accountable to anything.

You are responsible for your actions now and have more things to take care of. Think of everything from your finances to your investment plans to make sure your future is secure.

4. You have never been so close to your friends and family

This is something I can write from a personal experience. After being single, I started to value what I already had. Instead of chasing after things or even people, if you are able to halt for a moment and enjoy what you have, then you have certainly decoded the secret of life.

If you are able to value the people you already have in your life, then it only means you are pretty comfortable with the life that has been given to you. Spending more time with your friend and family makes you more grounded and you start living in the moment.

5. You are more stress-free and relaxed

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You have a future plan and are unafraid to take risks. Nothing really matters anymore as you are able to find utter bliss. You see a prominent difference in your lifestyle and are able to solve even the most dreadful of problems in the blink of an eye. You have never been so stress-free in your life before and deep within, you know nothing compares to this amazing feeling.

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6. You have started to value the importance of being single

By now, you already know how important it is to have your personal space. You go on vacations by yourself and don’t feel awkward to go to movies alone as well. You have your friends and family by your side and have found peace with what you have. Yes, you are having a great time being single, but at the same time, you are also open to the idea of being in a relationship with someone. You know it will happen when it is supposed to happen and that there is nothing wrong with being single.

7. Your sex drive is on!

Needless to say, just because you are single doesn’t mean that you will completely shut down the idea of having sex. Yes, you move pass those one-night stands and meaningless sex dates, but at the same time, you haven’t turned off your groove as well. You have no trouble in discovering yourself sexually and have never been so bold. You know each and every bit of your body and soul, and can take responsible actions to enjoy every act without giving an explanation to anyone.

8. You have rediscovered yourself

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You have found a sense of solace by being alone. You enjoy the company of your friends and go out to meet new people. But nothing makes more sense than the feeling of being alone. After all, you know you are alone but not lonely.

There is this thing about being single – it makes you fall in love with yourself. You have moved past the notion of finding love in someone else. You know that self-love is also important and that you have an abundance of it. You know who you are. You know what you want and most significantly, the kind of things you don’t want in your life anymore. With every passing day, you learn something new about yourself and it makes you fall in love with you all over again!

9. You can do anything at all!

Since you have more “me” time, there is nothing in this world that can hold you anymore. Yes, you are a responsible adult and are accountable for your own actions. You value your work and know how important it is to attain a perfect balance in life. Though, there is this feeling of being limitless that allows you to take a leap of faith whenever you want.

You are always full of optimism and even in the middle of a bad day, you can find something to laugh at. You see the glass always full and are able to discover that fine silver lining in every cloud. You know nothing in this world can stop you anymore from making your dreams come true.

10. You are taking care of your well-being (physically and emotionally)

You strike for excellence with every passing day, but you don’t let that compromise your health. You know how important your well-being is and you have started taking care of yourself more than ever.

If you have started to neglect your health or are going through an emotional turmoil, then you are certainly not doing it the right way. You need to take care of your physical as well as emotional well-being to make sure you enjoy everything that this world has to offer.

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11. You are happy – more than ever!

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If you are not happy being single, then why are you even doing this? If you think you are a part of some neglected club, why don’t you go out there and explore? Meet more people and start dating. Happiness is something that can’t be attained just like that. It is a process and you got to work for it. You need to earn it.

If you are all by yourself and is still happy, then you certainly can’t ask for anything more. Being single comes with a lot of pressure. Your friends would get worried for you and might start fixing you with anyone they know. Your parents will call you almost every day to keep a check on you. Sometimes, you would be judged by others for your lifestyle.

You can’t let all those things affect you. You know you have found peace in being alone and there is nothing in this world that can take it away from you. Let them know how happy you are with your actions. Follow your dreams and don’t miss out on a thing. Even if it means that you have to fall in love with yourself. Sometimes, you got to be your own hero and by being single, you can certainly make yourself your knight in the shining armor.

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11 Ways To Know If You Are Doing The 'Being Single' Thing Right
Here's how you can know if you are killin' it at being single!
Bhavya Kaushik

Bhavya Kaushik

A national bestselling author, Bhavya believes that too often the stories we write paint the reality we try to escape from. Bhavya believes in breaking the stereotypes and trying new things because life is too short to let it stay boring. With his love for verse, he can be found avidly blogging about life, love and everything that covers in between. He lives his life by the motto, 'I'm the story of my own journey.' "I don't write stories. I write characters."