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12 Love Lessons I Learnt From A Year Of Dating Douchebags aka LOSERS

We’ve all dated guys who were irresistible even when we knew they were the biggest losers on the planet. And while nobody here’s judging (for we all dwell in glass houses), we know we did what we only could at the time – dated them for longer-than-necessary. We’ve all been there – that one thing or another that kept drawing us back to the worst guys out there!

So what love lessons did I learn during the time I was on a douchebag dating spree?

1. They know what they are

Like all a-holes. They are completely aware that they are treating you like sh*t, and don’t give a damn. All the lies and bullsh*t…

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2. Nobody can fool me anymore

Hey, when you listen to all that elaborately made up crap, your radar eventually gets more sensitive. So the next time anyone lies to you through your teeth, you know.

You just know.

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3. I became self-sufficient AF

Yea, I know it sucks when you have to buy gifts for your own birthday because your a*shole of a boyfriend obviously didn’t. But I realized I don’t need codependency anymore because I am super independent. Girl Power!

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4. I came to know who is important to me

I now know that my best friend will always be around to hear me whine about the next guy I date. I know I can always crash at my parents’ when I am in need of some family love. (And free food).

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5. I don’t actually give a fuck about changing people anymore

I hoped and tried to change my LOSER boyfriend with all I had but that just didn’t happen. So now, I know better and don’t really try to change people. I accept and move on. Sometimes, you just can’t fix stupid.

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Suggested read: To the man who will love me next…


6. I now know what NOT to look for

Immature? Nah. Great in bed but is a douchebag? I’ll pass.

You get the idea.

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7. I learnt how to recognize manipulation

Baby, why are you fighting with me? You know you’re the one I love the most, right?

Um, no but thanks. Manipulation that may not seem so obvious, is also instantly recognized by my newly updated bullsh*t radar, like silly hints about my legs being unshaven, or about me crying at movies.

Nah, uh. I’ll pass.

And so should you.

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8. I realized ‘Jealous’ isn’t a type at all

It’s a disease. I now tend to stay away from self-proclaimed ‘jealous-type’ guys.

9. I learnt that it is unreasonable to ask anyone to change for you

And nor am I willing to change myself for anyone, and nor should you (except if you are a mass murderer – then you should totally change). I know that it is unreasonable and frankly, a little unrealistic to ask anyone to change for you.

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10. I realized being picky is ok

Standards do matter. Next time your friends tell you that you should stop being so picky in men, tell them to stuff it.

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11. That good looks and a cocky attitude rarely ever make a lasting relationship

I now recognize the type… But that doesn’t mean I am immune to their charms. Sucks, tbh.

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12. I now know what I really want from a relationship

After dating a ton of losers, I know what I don’t want and what I do want in relationship. And I make sure that my current boyfriend knows it. Sorry, not sorry baby!

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You know the feels, right?

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12 Love Lessons I Learnt From A Year Of Dating Douchebags aka LOSERS
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Because losers, too, come with their fair share of love lessons to teach us!
Amrin Talib

Amrin Talib

I am a brunette and an egalitarian. I love good food, cats, dogs, and books. I love to write, along with being an adrenaline junkie who hopes to travel the world someday. I have a cat named Duck.