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7 Vital Things To Keep In Mind While Getting Relationship Advice

When you are in a relationship, suddenly everyone around you becomes a love guru, doling out some *golden* words of wisdom that could take your relationship to the *next level*!

Now, we can totally sympathize with those eye rolls which you give to far too many people who stick their ugly as*es in your personal business. But, here are 7 vital reminders for you to keep in mind when you are getting relationship advice.

Yeah, before you judge us, we have been there, and done that so we know how it looks from both sides of the fence. So, read on because you’d do well to keep these pointers in mind the next time someone flings some relationship advice at you::

1. They *care*

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While we do know that this isn’t applicable all the time, there are people who will actually hand out some valuable advice as they have your best interests at heart- these are the peeps who actually care for you. They are concerned about you. So, even if their advice looks a little sh**ty or sometimes, not pruned for your liking, we figure, you could smile and mumble a little thanks maybe? And afterward, give it a thought or two?

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2. You don’t need to follow everything


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Yeah, we totally hear you. Tired of meeting ten people with eleven different takes on your relationship? We can totally feel you. Remember, you can hear what they have to say, but it doesn’t make it mandatory to do what they advise. But a little politeness never hurt anybody! So, no harm done ☺

3. It is okay to not be okay

Exactly! You read that right. You don’t need to be okay all the time. So, if someone gives you a piece of advice as to why it sucks to be you, just listen to them and don’t participate. But, in the end, remember it is okay to feel however you do- because feelings do NOT always know reason, and that’s part of being human.

4. Sometimes, you are better off single

Remember that there can be a lot of people who would make you crave to be in a lovey-dovey place with a partner. You can listen to their advice but don’t be impulsive and act on it. The grass isn’t always greener on the other side, it simply appears so.

5. Don’t bi*ch about your lover so much that you regret it

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This is a big one- one that far too many of us are guilty of. While it is fine to have a bestie you share everything with, it isn’t okay to keep blurting every detail about every difference in opinion or fight. You never know when the information may trickle out to reach someone who runs those rumored gossip mills! Trust us, your decision is going to come back and bite in your a*s. Precaution is better than cure.

6. Weigh your options

The more people you consult, the varied advice you will get. When you are in a relationship, learn how to weigh the options. There will be a dozen people with double the advice, but not all are bad, just like not all are worthy. So, you have to put your thinking cap on and sort the good advice from the terrible ones, weigh the facts and get it right.

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7. No backbiting

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Last but not the least; don’t indulge in backbiting when it comes to relationships. Nursing a broken heart? Ben and Jerrys is a better choice than bit*hing with half-friends who run the gossip tabloids. Or better still, go on a shopping spree and burn that credit card of yours because shopping is the best therapy a girl could ask for!

I know you are smiling!

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7 Things To Keep In Mind While Getting Relationship Advice
Getting relationship advice can be a toughie too!
Shruti Fatehpuria

Shruti Fatehpuria

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