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How To Get Your Crush To Like You – In 10 Easy Steps

You’re daydreaming about his laugh or her eyes and there’s just nothing that seems to be working to get them out of your head. We’ve all been in a state where we drool over someone who hardly even notices us, and even if they do, we get friend-zoned. Friend-zoned or not, you definitely know that they don’t return your feelings. So, how to get your crush to like you? Will they be the love of your life? That, I do not know. But what if both of you hit it off really well and they turn out to be the one you spend your life with? Then, you can send a bouquet of flowers to my place and thank me. 😉

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Yes, there are actually many ways to get your crush to like you, but that won’t happen if you stalk them endlessly or make a fool out of yourself in front of them. Instead, try out the following tips and hope that they fall for you (they generally do!):

1. Get noticed

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You’ve seen him and stared away shyly, but he doesn’t even seem to know that you exist. Or maybe you thought it would be good to pretend like you didn’t know who she is? But if she doesn’t even notice you, then that ‘playing hard to get’ plan is obviously going to flop. No one can fall in love with you or get anywhere close to you if you don’t even interact with each other. So, before you even try to think about working on your crush, make sure they are aware of your existence. You need to have your presence be felt.

2. Take the initiative

Yes, your crush has seen you and smiles were exchanged, and maybe even a hello (hey, it’s nice to be positive in life). In fact, you both might be thinking about each other and smiling away to glory – but that ain’t getting the job done for you! Now that they know about you, it’s time to step up the game plan on how to get your crush to like you. One of you needs to take the initiative to make things work, and it might as well be you. There’s no harm in having the upper hand now, is there?

3. Do a little detective work

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Go Sherlock on your crush! Dig in and dig deep, maybe not too much though (but dig!) and find out about their basic likes and dislikes. Figure out what they might be interested in or if you have any mutual interests. Find out enough so that you can hit them up with a decent conversation at the very least. Plus a little research on them might give you some insight on what kind of a person they are. That’s obviously going to help sometime, right? Either way, it’s going to be so much fun!

4. Common friends

Time to make your friends do some work, especially if they’re friends with your crush too. Not only will your mutual friends be able to give you all the information you need, you will also be able stalk them regularly (it is not as creepy as it sounds!). This way, you can keep tabs on how they are feeling and also strategize your plans to win them over accordingly. Make sure you get introduced at the least.

5. Make conversation

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Once you both have made some sort of acquaintance, the most important bit of your job begins. Go all out and make an interesting conversation with your crush. Start with a mutual interest or something that you know they really are into. You could always counter their view point about a particular thing to make things more lively and have some fun along the way. Arguments are a great way to get noticed, plus also get an insight into how your crush handles situations that are not in their favor. Just make sure it doesn’t get too serious and cause a real fight between you two! That’s not the point of this exercise.

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6. Get funny

If not the arguments, you could try the humor card. After all, who doesn’t like their funny bone to be tickled? Pour some attention on them and get them to laugh and you’ll definitely have them enjoying your company. Become a friend to them and build some trust. Once you get there, there’s no turning back. Now, you just need to tread carefully to make things happen.

7. Flirt

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No, I’m not telling you to go right up to them and start behaving like a smitten crazy person, but you have got to try to turn the heat on, because well, you want your crush to like you now, don’t you? So you’re going to have to step up your game and try a few things that will lead to some sort of communication other than smiling at each other in the hallway or basic small talk. An accidental nudge or run-in at the cafeteria might lead to a phone number exchange and maybe even a date! You made those conversations, now it’s time to take it to the next level. You won’t know if you don’t try!

8. Play hard to get

You’re talking, paying attention, flirting, and basically doing all that you need to do to get them to like you. But one of the most important ways of how to get your crush to like you is to play hard to get. Once your crush knows you and has seen the best side of you, hold back a little. You don’t want to come off as desperate (no matter how desperate you might actually be in reality :P). So step back, act a little casual, and give them space to try making an effort from their end. You can even try making them a little jealous if that works for you. You want to be wooed as well, don’t you?

9. Don’t let yourself change

You’ve tried everything but nothing seems to be working? Maybe you both don’t have enough mutual interests or maybe he just doesn’t give you the attention that you deserve. If that’s the case, then maybe it’s not meant to be. Not everyone hits it off, and maybe your crush isn’t the one for you. You tried, but you can’t force someone to want and love you. So let it go if it isn’t working for you. Don’t change yourself or your life to be more likable to your crush. It’s the most insensible thing that you can ever do.

10. Give it time

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Have some patience and give it time before you jump to the above point. Don’t jump to any conclusions until you’re really sure about things. This is not something that can happen overnight. You need to give your crush some time and space to think about you and react to you. If you try forcing and rushing into things, chances are that you might scare them away to the extent that they think of you as the person who is a crazy stalker or just plain desperate. Don’t let that happen to you. Take it slow – one step at a time.

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So, get to work if you want your crush to like you. It’s really not all that difficult. Of course, it takes a little work, but you have to work hard if you want to fulfill your fantasy. Dress well, listen up, and pay attention to detail – that will definitely work for you. Let them see the best side of you, this kind and amazing person that anyone would be lucky to have in their life. I mean, who wouldn’t? Funny, loving, kind, sexy – doesn’t it sound too good to be true? It will be like a dream come true for most people.

If you’re being all of that and if your crush still doesn’t see it, then there’s no point. Just don’t get too stressed about it. You don’t need that kind of negativity in your life. It’s just a crush and you tried your bit to get them to like you. If it doesn’t work, it doesn’t work. There are plenty of fish in the sea that you can find and actually make things work with. If not love, you might at least end up making a good friend for life. That doesn’t sound so bad now, does it? Plus, it means that you’ll be looking for someone new and happy in your life. And that is always fun!

And if it did work out for you, then you’re welcome. Everyone loves a happy ending!

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How To Get Your Crush To Like You - In 10 Easy Steps
So you have a crush on that cute girl/guy from work. But how to get your crush to like you back? Here's how, in 10 easy steps! You're welcome :)
Deepika Singhania

Deepika Singhania

A Literature and Media post graduate, Deepika Singhania is a freelance writer, editor and a hardcore feminist. She is an avid reader and a football enthusiast, who loves cooking and traveling along with having a strong affinity for chocolates, Harry Potter, and Bangalore rains.