Some of you ladies must be wondering why you are still single while most of your other friends are celebrating the millionth year of their relationship, getting married, or having babies, and you are getting ready to become a bridesmaid or a third-wheel, again. What you need is a comprehensive lesson on how to woo a man, so that you can increase your chances of finding the man of your dreams.
You might be pleasantly surprised to know that men aren’t that hard to woo. In fact, they are always looking for some sign from females as to whether they are allowed to proceed or not. If you manage to perfect the art of wooing a man with finesse and dexterity, you are likely to emerge with the person you have always desired, hopelessly in love with each other.
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Here are some tips on ways to attract a man, that you are bound to find helpful.
1. Work on your self-confidence
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Before you can actually do something to the man in order to woo him, you need to first work on yourself. The first rule you need to know about how to woo a man is that you have to be confident enough to pull off the entire operation. If you have low self-esteem and you chicken out after the first few failed attempts, then honestly speaking, you are going to be sharing Forever Alone memes when you are 90. Have confidence in yourself and your potential and before you know it, men will be flocking to you for that very confidence that so many women seem to lack.
2. Make an effort to look physically appealing
Now, I am not saying that you need to pick up the latest fashion magazine and dress like a supermodel or according to the conventional rules of beauty that has been so didactically laid down by society. Take time and effort to look beautiful, but only to the point where you’re comfortable. Pick your favorite dress, apply whatever makeup your face feels comfortable in, and give yourself the royal beauty treatment to make yourself appear as physically attractive as possible, in your own eyes before anyone else’s.
3. Always maintain great hygiene
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No one really understands the immense importance of personal hygiene, especially when it comes to attracting the opposite sex. If you maintain good personal hygiene, the least that can happen is that you remove all possibilities of repelling another individual, and if you take the effort of going that extra mile by adding perfume or getting a great manicure, then your chances of scoring and figuring out how to keep a man are going to get way easier.
4. Make eye contact and smile at the same time
Making eye contact, using people’s names in a conversation more than twice, and smiling are not only great tips when you want to find out how to woo a man, but they are also the fundamental rules of conversation. When you make eye contact and smile at the same time, you become approachable, and men will want to keep the conversation going with you, and that will obviously increase the chances of them finding out how awesome you actually are.
5. Make sure your body language is positive and approachable
Body language is key when you are trying to figure out how to woo a man. Make sure that you are relaxed when you sit and you have good posture, but at the same time, when you do subtle things like tuck your hair behind your ear, or lean forward (not seductively) when the other person is speaking, it makes you look more open and approachable. This is one of the more intricate ways to attract a man, which is going to get you places with people in general.
6. Keep the conversation going
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If you want to woo a man properly, you have to be a great conversationalist. If you are the one trying to get him to like you, then you are the one responsible for the conversation, and the duration of it, and obviously, the longer it is the better. The most effective way is to keep talking about things that interest both of you, and if in case he tells you about something you don’t know, for example a new restaurant, don’t say, “Nope, I have no idea, sorry,” and bring the chit chat to a dead-end. Go ahead and inquire about it and show curiosity so that you don’t run out of things to talk about.
7. Work that sense of humor
And even if you are not funny, you can turn the situation into something you both can laugh about by admitting that you are not funny at all. By directing the laughter at yourself, you eliminate the awkwardness and say out loud whatever your man was thinking, making him feel comfortable and at ease with you. Also, one cannot help but be attracted to someone who has the ability to laugh at oneself and dissipate a super awkward situation.
8. Meet in a romantic setting
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Meeting in positive or exciting situations such as on a bright sunlit day, during a rainy day or a picturesque day in autumn not only puts you in a great mood, but also increases the chance of better communication, and for some reason, the laws of attraction work overtime in situations like these. For example, if you meet on a stormy day, and get caught in the rain, you get a perfectly legit excuse to huddle together under the shade. *wink*
9. Don’t be afraid to make small talk
Making small talk doesn’t mean that you have run out of things to talk about. In fact, talking about apparently trivial things such as your favorite food or cuisine, or your favorite band or your favorite movies gives you incredible insight into another person’s life and their mind, which can help you get to know each other better, and understand how compatible and awesome the other person actually is.
10. Look smart and talk about smart things
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No, you don’t have to memorize an encyclopedia before you go meet your man. A lot of people are under the impression that men do not like women who are smarter than them, or smart, period. One couldn’t be farther from the truth, because firstly, you can be pretty and smart, so there is no question of sacrificing either one of those options for the other. Secondly, if you deliberately dumb yourself down to come across as pretty and sweet and easy, your man will realize that he will run out of things to talk about with you, and he will not look for something serious. If you want to establish some real, long term connection with a man and woo him in the proper sense of the term, unleash all the potential of your education and common sense.
11. Show them that you need them and their help
Unfortunately, the patriarchy is such that they have given men a false sense of responsibility towards women. It will help your cause if you feed that for the time being. Therefore, if you are out to figure out how to woo a man, then you can tell them things like, “I really need your help with this,” or “I can’t believe how good you are at this,” and other such compliments, which will establish that you appreciate their abilities as men. No matter how cringe-worthy it may seem, it is nonetheless, effective.
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12. Do not nag if he doesn’t succumb to your charms immediately
One of the most basic laws of attraction states that you always want what you don’t have. So you want that man. But it is best if you don’t let him know the extent of your attraction towards him, or anyone, for that matter. The moment you start acting aloof, they start getting interested in you, and they might even start getting attracted towards you, even after you have given up hope. However, what you must never ever do is nag and follow them and become an obsessive stalker which will result in nothing but a restraining order. If they do not show interest for the time being, let them be and cut off all forms of communication with them. Chances are they might start noticing your absence. And even if they don’t, you have to come to terms with the fact that this bird wasn’t meant for you to catch and that you have emerged much wiser, and much more mature, from the experience.
Wooing a man isn’t as difficult as you think it is, and following some simple, basic steps can actually help you become a man magnet, and not feel like a consistent third wheel to your happy-in-love friends.
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