If there is one thing that would confuse even Sherlock Holmes, it is knowing whether someone we are dating actually gives a sh*t about us or not! Things get weirder when it is a man we are dealing with! Yes, he sends me texts that are cute and lets me keep my toothbrush with his (!) but does that mean he is head over heels in love with me?! Or is he just entertaining himself until someone better comes along?! Impossible to decode, right?
Wrong!
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Here are the 12 things that will let the cat out of the bag and tell you if he is or he is not head over heels in love with you!
1. He will use the ‘we’ word!
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As soon as he starts using the ‘we’ word, particularly while referring to the future, you should know that he is head over heels in love with you! A long term relationship is on the cards! He now looks at you as a very important part of his life and is always considering you in whatever future plans he thinks of!
2. He will always show his best behavior!
When men fall head over heels in love with someone, they are very much aware of their own conduct and make certain that they don’t do anything that will screw up the whole deal. Suddenly they avoid going bar hopping on the weekends and curb their female friendships if they think you will get a wrong impression. They will be on their toes as far as apologies are concerned and will do everything in their power to set things right. If he is a guy that hurts you constantly and dismisses you in front of his friends or yours, it’s a red flag that he doesn’t give two thoughts about you. In the latter case, you should stop investing any time or energy on the bloke!
3. He will spoil you with his time!
In lieu of taking his pals up on every invite, he starts saying no and plans things with you. He may also invite you to his friends’ so that he can spend time with you while also not refusing them. In any case, the majority of his time is devoted to you. He is trying to build something with you; he knows that this will take both time and effort, and he is prepared for that. There is no need for him to troll other women at the bar or take part in bachelor ‘deeds’ to the same degree as before. If you have been dating a guy who spends most of his free time with you, talking to you and discussing important stuff that includes you mostly, this man is head over heels in love with you!
4. He will introduce you to his family and his inner circle!
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When a guy is head over heels in love with a girl, he is likely to broadcast it! This means that he will invite you to his family events and will tag you along as a partner to his friends’ parties. He tries to have you close all the time and wants to include you in that circle which is the closest to him. If he were to think of you as a fling alone, he would not let you within a metre of the radius of this circle!
5. He will always ask for your opinion!
Men, usually, never ask for help, let alone something as demeaning as an opinion or thought! If your guy has done away with this universality and asks you what you think about the situation at hand, he completely values your input. By this gesture, your man is also sending you a message that he wants to rope you into some of the choices, the way a man and his wife work, as partners. He is building “our life” and wants to make you feel a part of it.
6. He will want to help you, genuinely!
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Does this sound a little caveman-ish? Like him wanting to take care of you and protect you? I don’t think so! Women adore this! If your guy wants to support you, even though he is aware of and respects the fact that you can look after yourself, he is head over heels in love with you! He will step in, without you having to ask him, whenever need be. In case of any problem, he will be there and he will fix it, at least he will try! He wants to be your one and only, someone you can count on with eyes shut. A man only shows concern and care for the girl he loves and he will sort his schedule to make room for and fit your needs in. If he is the kind that says, ‘your problem,’ he certainly shouldn’t be ‘yours’!
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7. You are his ‘one and only’!
To fall head over heels in love with a woman, a man must have eyes only for her! I am in no way intending that he will suddenly be dead below the waist (that’d be terrible for you specifically!) and will not appreciate the beauty of other women, but the difference is that he won’t go out to make her his. He is completely devoted to you and wants to work with you on your own grass than see if the grass on the other side is greener. No chance of an Ashley Madison tragedy in this case! There is a little bit of an announcement involved in this. Boys usually make their intentions very clear and if you both have already had the commitment or exclusivity discussion, you are, without a shadow of a doubt, his priority.
8. He will talk to you about the days to come!
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He won’t be afraid to discuss the future with you if he is head over heels in love with you. I don’t mean ‘dialogues’ on what song you will dance to on your wedding day but you know the talks where you speak of future plans. These may even involve the immediate future, of course, from a reference that involves you. If your man plans trips with you and involves you in arranging every detail of the trip or the itinerary, you should continue hanging on his words.
9. He says he loves and adores you
This is pretty upfront and leaves little doubt in your mind for further analysis! If a man uses the L word and means it (you can see it in his eyes and in whatever he does!), he has fallen head over heels in love with you, my lady! Like I said, actions backing up those lovely words are what brings the whole deal together. A man can declare anything he may want but in truth his words are empty if his deeds don’t match it. Love is a verb; you don’t just say it, you do it!
10. He is willing to do the dirty chores!
If your guy voluntarily washes up after a meal or helps you clean your house, it is a golden sign; he is head over heels in love with you! This royal treatment is only meted out when the man sees you as someone precious. However, it may wear off down the line, being most prominent during the honeymoon phase when he will try to win you over. Just preparing you! 😉 But for now, things are super!
11. He says sorry after an argument and means it!
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People who hold a grudge radiate negative energy, which in turn, kills the relationship. You don’t need someone like that in your life! But if your guy is head over heels in love with you, he will just not want to hold on to something bitter. When you have a fight (which, believe it or not, is a healthy sign!), he will recognize his mistakes, if any, and apologize as fast as possible. If the fault is yours, he will try to talk to you about it and set things right. Don’t act insane and fight with him for the sake of fighting. He is a man to keep!
12. He misses you when you are not with him!
Have you already started receiving random phone calls or WhatsApp or text messages from your guy, for no apparent reason? If yes, your man is totally, unabashedly, head over heels in love with you! He simply cannot bear to be away from you and makes it a point that you know that. I hope you do understand!
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These 12 things that men do when they are head over heels in love with their woman are very easily overlooked by some. Hope you won’t make that mistake! 
Here’s a bonus flag, just for you!
If your man trusts you with his secrets he has a huge ‘thing’ for you. Guys usually avoid talking about anything that’s personal, unless they trust the person. If he bares his soul to you and discusses all that he fears, all his dreams, then he is bestowing you with a level of trust that he only reserves for those he feels very close to! Respect that, respect him!
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