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8 REAL Struggles Of Every Online Dater

“Arrgghh- I don’t have a date, I’m not coming!” “Why don’t you try online dating?

Do you cringe at the mere mention of online dating because you have had far too many dates from hell! Well, we feel you, hon. We know how the attempts to find love while making the fingers swell to thrice their size and eyes appear shot from sleepless nights like a worsened case of double-digit hangover from lukewarm tequila shots gone wrong FEELS! Yes, we know the *feels* So, in solidarity, let’s look back at the all-too-REAL struggles of every online dater. Because only an online dater can vouch for the prickly pain in the a*s the hunt for love can be!

1. Finding the perfect profile

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Ever kept count of the number of hours we spend on the different dating portals just for the sake of finding that one perfect profile who isn’t too creepy, too good to be true, too flashy or too fake? If you found your Mr. Right a bit too quickly, you have every reason to worry because online dating and quick success generally don’t go hand in hand.

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2. Too many apps, too little use

The list perhaps never ends. With Tinder and its kin flooding the world of online dating, you will be tempted to steal a look into all of these apps. But, if only one of them’d have brought in the right swipe that made you happy, you’d not curse’em all and wish a plague be cast upon the appscape!

3. The stalkers, the haters!

Once you start online dating, you will come across a special parade of perverts (some of the kind you didn’t know existed) who will stalk you down or send you anonymous hate texts and mails all over the place, after you have blocked their unsolicited d*ck pictures or unwarranted invitations for crazy orgies. And just when you find someone you believe steers clear of the grime, bam- you can hear the evil Tinder-esque laughter of the universe along with ‘Gotcha!’ FML

4. Drastic moments of depression

After endless months and even years (which felt like centuries) of trying your hand at online dating and not finding even even one decent online dater who could be a near-about match, the depression you may feel can be tantalizingly high. We know the *feels*

5. The fake pretension game

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No matter how much you despise it, you must play it! As an online dater who has got no option but to keep looking, you will still need to nod and pretend like it is a whole new wonderful world out there. “Oh you won’t believe the guys I meet. It is amazing, you should try it too,” is what you say when you are actually internally screaming curses and wishing to bang the head of the person who popped the censored question against the wall! Oh, and if you didn’t know it already, there’s a fair degree of the pretend-game to be played out on dates too. Coz some seasoned veteran at online dating told me it’s just rude if you zone out when the other person is telling you about the number of times he needs to check if his door’s locked at night!

6. *Those* tales

I am not sure if this is a good thing or bad. Bad dates make for the best stories- so you’ll have plenty in your kitty! No matter where you go, you will always find a couple of people who would be more interested in your dating life than you yourself are! “Oh tell Jim too, Jim, you gotta hear about Kate’s date, we still can’t stop laughing!” So, see- your life is amusing to others- and if you are a writer, well, you’ve struck gold!

7. Butterflies before the date

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The fact that you never know what to expect from a date you do manage to fix up online gives you the weird butterflies’ parade in your tummy! You literally pull off the strength to dress up for what could easily be the worst of your lot, as these crazy creatures multiply in your tummy at the rate rabbits f*ck!

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8. And WTF right after!

In the end, your date turns out just as terrible as the old one and God forbid, sometimes even worse (unless you have a fairy Godmother)!

However, that said, once in awhile, you may find the love of your life sitting like a total ba**ss hunk on one of those social profiles and you end up being grateful for putting up with the s**t for so long!

But sorry, that’s matter for a fictional tale I’m working on!

Sorry folks!

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8 REAL Struggles Of Every Online Dater
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Shruti Fatehpuria

Shruti Fatehpuria

I am a misfit software engineer who left her work in the corporate world to pursue the insatiable quest to write. A freelance worker by the day, I choose to dream with eyes open wide. I have conversations with myself where I talk of the possibilities that life can hold. Too many wishes made on empty starless nights ensure that there are various dreams yet to be lived. I am working my way as I am on a quest to find myself. The greatest journeys are indeed the ones that lie within. I am yet to live my story because right now, the book is full of too many apostrophes and too many commas. The words are jumbled until the right one fits the puzzle. I don't believe in perfection because too many times, it is imperfection which paints the perfect story. I am verbose and I aim at living life in full swing until a speed breaker curbs the tantalizing pace with which I wish to conquer the dreams that would otherwise be too big for the not-so-tiny shoes I wear. Blessed with a lot of chubby fat, I love going the extra mile to conquer my extra dreams with an extra advice after all, we all love a little extra. A die-hard shopaholic, you can often find me laughing on serious stuff inappropriately at wrong times (unintentionally).