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#ScienceSpeaks How To Have More Sex? By Being Kind!

The perception has always been that nice guys (or gals, for that matter), finish last. That they’re unattractive and are frankly off-putting when it comes to dating.

However, a new study has something that will change your perception about nice guys finishing last. New research from the University of Guelph and Nipissing University shows that people who are kind to others are more desirable to the opposite sex, have more number of sexual partners, and have more frequent sex. In essence, altruistic people are the best sources to answer the question: how to have more sex, eh?

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The study, which was published recently in the British Journal of Psychology, was titled, Altruism predicts mating success in humans. For the study, the scientists interviewed about 800 people, and asked them about their relationships, how often they helped others, not limited to donating blood, giving to charity, helping someone cross the street, helping classmates and peers, and even donating winnings. Then, the participants’ self-reported sexual history was looked at by the researchers, and they concluded that people who are highly altruistic scored more sex, and frequently too.

When compared to men who were less charitable, altruistic men, aka the nice guys, reported as having more success in the sack, and, kind people, of both genders, who were currently in relationships, reported getting more action in the past 30 days.

Talking about the study, Pat Barclay, a University of Guelph psychology professor, said,

“This study is the first to show that altruism may translate into real mating success in Western populations, that altruists have more mates than non-altruists.”

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Lead author of the study, professor Steven Arnocky from Nipissing, said,

“It appears that altruism evolved in our species, in part, because it serves as a signal of other underlying desirable qualities, which helps individuals reproduce.”

This study’s results support previous studies done on food sharing by hunters, which found that men who shared the meat enjoyed greater reproductive success than others. Earlier research also shows that men and women both are attracted to altruistic people.

So there you have the answer to the question: How to have more sex? Now there’s scientific proof (we need to take this study with a pinch of salt, because the findings were based on self-reporting by the participants. And people, in general, are notorious for embellishing facts, as we all know) that altruistic people are HOT! So the next time you come across a homeless person, or a puppy whimpering in the rain, help them, if not out of the kindness of your heart, then for the off-chance that some hot person is witnessing it and you’ll probably clock some action between the sheets! 😉

What do you think about this study? Are you attracted to people who are kind and do-gooders? Share your thoughts in the comments below.

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How To Have More Sex? By Being Kind, Says Science!
So how to have more sex, do you think? By meeting more people and getting busy between the sheets often? Nope. By being kind!
Chaitra Ramalingegowda

Chaitra Ramalingegowda

I fell in love with storytelling long before I knew what it was. Love well written stories, writing with passion, baking lip-smacking-finger-licking chocolate cakes, engaging movies, and home-cooked food. A true work-in-progress and a believer in the idiom 'all those who wander are not lost'. Twitter: @ChaitraRlg