Sometimes, it can get tough for guys to settle and commit, irrespective of how long they have been dating a girl, or how much they want to spend time with her. If your boyfriend is afraid of commitment, try to talk some sense into him instead of playing a blame-game.

These foolproof ways will make him realize your worth and inspire him to cross the bridge for sure.

1. Make sure that it’s not an excuse

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Before you initiate anything, you need to make sure that he is not making an excuse. Be sure that he would like to be with you and is merely afraid of the commitment.

2. Find out why he is afraid

Just like any other fear, commitment phobia can also have its reasons rooted deep in him. Try to revisit his past and find out the reason of his phobia.

3. Make him understand that this is different

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Chances are that the failure of a past relationship could be the reason of his fear. You have to make him realize that just because things didn’t work out in the past; it doesn’t mean that he will keep repeating the same pattern over and over again. Every relationship is different and you are not like one of his exes.

4. Meet him halfway

If he is not ready to settle, don’t ask him to compromise all at once. Settle for something less than what you have demanded and try to come up with a mutual decision.

5. Take it one step at a time

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You need to understand that he can’t change in a day. If your boyfriend is afraid of commitment, you need to make sure that you take baby steps with him.

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6. Don’t force him

Don’t push him to be with you, just because you think it is the right thing to do. The more you force him to be with you, the more you would push him away.

7. Understand him

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Try to know him inside out. Touch his soul and connect to him in a way that will make him realize that you are not like anyone else.

8. Give him some space

After making your points and giving him your reasons, you need to give him some space. You can only make him realize why he should be with you, but you can’t take that decision for him. Let him figure it out on his own.

9. Never manipulate him

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Don’t give him immature conditions or play mind-games with him. This might damage your bond and ruin your relationship forever.

10. Face his fears – together

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No one can come out of their phobia without facing their fears. You need to be with him through thick and thin so that he could come out of his fear. Make him realize that he has taken the right decision.

11. Think of the bigger picture

If your boyfriend is afraid of commitment, give him a reason and an inspiration to face his fears. Think of the bigger picture to let him know how great things could be if you two are together. Be with him for a day or two, take him out on a vacation, and give him a glimpse of what your future could be.

12. Don’t give up on him

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He might start second guessing his move and can push you away, but you can’t give up on him. Consider it just like any other phobia and remind yourself why you want to be with him. Never lose hope, and inspire him to cross the line, even when you are having a bad day.

It might get tough to be with a guy who is afraid of commitment, but after when he has faced his fear, he will realize that it was the easiest thing to do. Be with him and cherish your bond for the years to come. You have earned it!

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