The key to any relationship is connecting with your partner and finding out what it is they enjoy, and when it comes to the bedroom, what turns them on. Rest assured though, the majority of males appreciate a sex show. And the most old fashioned sex show known to man is that of the striptease.
Yet, striptease can be a female’s worst nightmare if it doesn’t go according to plan. Girls and women alike tread a fine line between under-performing and overdoing it, when it comes to the art form known as the striptease. Fear of rejection, overwhelming embarrassment, and being scared that you are in fact laughed at, are all natural emotions that run through a female’s mind when discussing this age old act. Relax though, you are not the only female to harbor such thoughts of insecurity. There are, however, some steps you and I can take to ensure that our striptease is performed according plan.
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The first step is to feel comfortable with yourself. Whatever shape, size or figure you come in, prepare yourself to look the way you want to look. Prior to performing in front of my man, I prepare myself by wearing a combination of outfits that I know he likes, together with a combination of accessories that I enjoy wearing. Keep in mind, my striptease doesn’t happen every night, and the key to my striptease is all in the preparation. Here’s how I do it:
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1. I like to visit the beauty salon the week before my striptease and have a pedicure and manicure, together with a bikini wax. Pink is a color that suits my blond complexion, so I treat my nails accordingly. Whilst I know my man loves a landing strip, I request a half Brazilian wax to suit. The afternoon before the ‘performance,’ I wash and condition my hair and wear his favorite perfume before dressing in the Ann Summers blossom bra and pink boy leg panties he bought me for my birthday. I know he loves to see me in these as he has told me repeatedly. I then place a pretty pink and crimson negligee over the top for added disguise. This adds another layer of clothing to take off during my performance. For me, it helps not to be too revealing at the outset, as I need to place him on a slow burn and engage him rather than let him loose from the start.
2. Being myself is all about presenting him with a style that suits me. A sense of style that I feel comfortable with during the striptease. I like to put my hair up in a high ponytail with a pink band to match my lingerie. This reveals my long neck which I then dress in a silver necklace. I then wear a silver tennis bracelet to match and some high pink stilettos. Although I am 5’10” in height, the stilettos tend to highlight my longish legs (well, I think so anyway :)).
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3. Then it’s all about the mood. Ideally, I pick a night when I am aware we are not too tired. Preferably a Sunday night, when we have been able to relax for the weekend. After we’ve had our dinner and some wine, I take the opportunity to say I’m having a shower before bedtime, and then I sneak away to prepare. For me, the best recipe lies in the unexpected. I enjoy surprising my lover. That way, he has not had time to digest his thoughts prior to the show. There are no long term expectations associated with my show. My man is treated without even knowing he had bought the ticket! The mood for me is one of perfumed candles in our bedroom, together with dimmed lights. With the bed made to precision, all is in readiness for the show.
In line with my desire to surprise my man, I ensure that he is in the bedroom when I make my entrance. I then turn on some mood music, either soft soul or even light folk, whatever works for you. It could be Barry White, Johnny Legend or even Elvis, as long as it’s something you both can relax to. Then I slowly groove in tune to the beat and talk in my sexiest voice to my man. I’m lucky as my pretty pink camisole has a thin sash that I like to place around my man’s neck to lean him up and forward toward the end of our double bed. That way, I have his full attention as I commence my striptease. And more importantly, I am close enough to touch him during the performance, should the need arise. He too is close enough to take in my scent, to pleasure himself with the perfume I know he loves.
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Having untied my sash, I slowly play with my camisole, lifting up, then down my legs, like I have all the time in the world. Revealing the front and back of my panty line as I sway to and fro to the music, all the time leaning toward him, to ensure eye contact is made. Smiling and establishing a connection with my man. Then I throw my ponytail over in front of me, before leaning back and throwing my hair over behind me, providing him with a full view of the pretty pink panties I know he admires.
Now it’s time for the undressing. Starting with the necklace, I slowly undo the jewelry and place it on the bed next to him, together with the silver tennis bracelet. Then turning around in front of him, I bend over and reach all the way to my toes, to slowly undo the straps of my stilettos, giving him time to take in my inner thighs, and then to feast on the crease running all the way up to my tight behind. I enjoy spending my early evenings blasting through six minute ab and bum workouts at Sparkspeople.com on Youtube, and enjoy my body. Yet, if this is a step you feel uncomfortable with, that’s fine too.
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Then I kick my legs forward with the stilettos flying high up toward the ceiling and landing upon our bed next to him along with the jewelry. I then turn around once more to undo the ribbon on my Camisole strap and turn to face him, with my blossom push up bra exposing both breasts up high and tight in line with his eyes. I then move ever so close to his lips, almost, but not touching him with my breasts. Then, turning around, I bend over again, ever so slowly, and play with the top of my panties, teasing him at will. Slightly lowering them, then lifting them back up again, to keep him aroused at all times. Then, turning around, I unhook my bra and dance a little more, before turning to face him, with my nipples now on high, dressed only in my pink boy leg panties. Swaying and grooving to the music, alive in the scent of the candles, my perfume and my hair conditioner, within the soft light of the most intimate room in our house, I then begin to explore myself in full view of my lover. Gently exposing my landing strip to him, teasing him, and drawing him in close. Closer to me.
So, girlfriend, no matter your age or stage in life, the striptease is a gorgeous way to express yourself sexually in the comfort of your own home, with your partner. I absolutely love it, as I not only enjoy expressing myself in a manner in which I feel comfortable, I enjoy his reaction when I turn him on. As nervous I feel when I first enter that room, the finale is well worth the price of admission!
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