We have different kinds of friends in our group, right? There are also some folks who we could do better without, but somehow not being friends with them just doesn’t seem feasible. I mean, when you don’t like someone on Facebook, then without even thinking twice you either unfriend them or block them (in case you don’t want them to know!). Wish this could be done in real life too, right? Well, what if we told you, you can. Read on to know more.
We tend to hang out with people for very lame reasons, come to think of it. We cannot stop seeing them because there is so much history, and confronting them about the break we need from them, seems just too rude. And so we spend more years tolerating them, and in the process hating them even more. If you think you too are in a rut like this, then you need this post on how to unfriend someone in real life.
We change with time, and sometimes we and our friends grow apart. It is okay to not want to hang out with them every day. You love them, you be there for them when they need you, but you cannot be buddies who meet every day. I know this seems harsh, it is healthy, not just for you, but also for your friend.
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How to unfriend someone in real life
If you are feeling too lost on this, then let us help you. Here is a step-by-step guide on how to unfriend someone in real life. You can thank us later.
- Decide if you really want to unfriend this person
If you want to unfriend someone because you just had a fight with them or a trivial argument, then that’s just lame. So take some time away from them, and think if you really want to unfriend them, because remember, there is no coming back. Do not jump the gun and get rid of someone, thus ruining a beautiful friendship, which is very rare to find, by the way.
- Once you have decided, slowly cut the off
Now that you are sure you don’t want to be friends with this person, start slowly cutting them off. Don’t hang out with them. Don’t respond to their texts or calls. Behave like you don’t know them at all.
There is, however, a loophole in this step because there are many friends who don’t expect regular phone calls from you or even don’t meet you once a year, so how do you communicate your decision to unfriend them? The next step shall tell you that.
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- Sit them down and talk to them
Yes, confrontations suck, but they are always the right thing to do. This person was once a very good friend of yours, and they deserve to know. Do it out of respect if not out of love. Tell them to meet you someplace, and have a last meal together. Tell them it is not working out, and it is best that you both stop being friends.
- Send them a mail
Who said you could not do it over the internet? Send them a long letter explaining why you cannot be friends with them. Also, write to them that it was too damn hard for you to do this face-to-face given all that history you two share. This way, the recipient will also have the necessary time to process such a mail.
- Do not give in
Suppose your friend wronged you, and that is the reason you don’t want to be friends with them, and you communicate the same to them face-to-face or over email. Now what happens when your friend apologizes and promises that they won’t repeat the same, though they may have said that it the past too? Do not give in. This friendship is unhealthy and it has got to end.
- You need to talk about this with your other friends
If you and the friend you are trying to cut-of have mutual friends, then it is important that you tell the latter about the situation. By doing so, you will make it less awkward for your friends who will know not to plan something and invite the two of you. This way, both of you get the necessary time and space to grow further apart. Also, now that you are not friends with this person, please do not gossip about them. Unfriending can and should be done with dignity.
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