Independence is a virtue that is largely celebrated, be it financial or emotional independence. However, when you are alone, certain cracks or inadequacies in your life start to appear. When you’re in love with another individual, your significant other may fill certain voids that had existed in your life, maybe even without your knowledge. The man you love should be compatible with you and make some missing elements in your life feel whole again, in order for you to expect a happy future with him.
Here are just some examples how your relationship can make you feel alive again.
1. Someone you can call family
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The word ‘family’ contains deep and impacting implications. You might have been blessed with a family of your own, but they are never perfect – they may be absent in your everyday, or they may not be the kind of people whom you can confide in. You need someone you can talk to, someone you can depend on, and someone you want to go back home to every day no matter what.
A missing presence like this in your life can be filled by the man you love, so much so that you start to think of them as your only real family. They are potentially your partner for life, and when you think of starting your own family with them, you should be able to feel a sense of belonging and security.
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2. Someone who exclusively cares about you
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We share our closest ones, be it friends or family, with other people, so there is no saying that you are the one and only exclusive person in their lives. Yet having someone whom you know you are their one and only gives you a sense of security like nothing else.
I am not saying that is what will happen with the person you love, but the kind of care that you two bear for each other should not be equated with the care you have for other people. It is a question of priorities, where no matter what, your partner prioritizes you above everyone else.
3. Someone who understands you completely
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You may have a thriving social life and go out with friends every weekend, but that does not mean you are not lonely. What matters more is having someone in your life who can understand you completely.
The man you love is someone you can always turn to when you are in need, because they fully get every single aspect of you. There are certain things that your family might not comprehend, or your friends might find trivial, but having someone who will be there for and accepting of you no matter what is irreplaceable.
4. Someone who will be there during crisis
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Many people lose control of themselves when they are angry, or when they are in a situation which is physically and emotionally overwhelming. When you are having a fight with someone, you need someone who can hold you back; when you are facing a life crisis, you need someone who will be able to keep you calm and help you get through it, even if they cannot offer any help with the situation itself.
When you are in a relationship, even your fights with your partner have to have a diffusing factor, and that diffusing factor can be the person right in front of you. It is important to sense whether the man you love fights just to gain the upper hand, or to ensure that you come to a compromise and are emotionally comfortable.
5. An honest perspective about your life
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Most people don’t know themselves properly, and as a result, they tend to behave differently with different people. This only further deepens the identity crisis, because no one actually knows who they really are. It is important to have someone who will be able to give you an alternative and completely honest opinion about you, your behaviour, your decisions, and your life in general.
When you are in love, your significant other is someone who loves and accepts you for who you are and yet can make a sound, unbiased judgment about your character. Hence, when they give you a fresh perspective about yourself, whether it’s positive or critical, you know it’s the complete truth and that it is for your own good.
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6. Stemming purposeless in life
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One of the most frustrating feelings is aimlessness. You might have a great job and an apartment to yourself, and you might have achieved all the conventional milestones of success. But at the end of the day, you can’t help but wonder, “What, who was all this for?”
You can turn to your partner for the answer; someone who deserves the love and effort you can put in to make someone happy. With them, you can see a secure future to work towards, which gives you a renewed sense of purpose in life.
7. Filling the emotional void left from heartbreak
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This is one of the most potent voids in your life, and most people tend to undermine the impact it can have on your present and your future. When you get into a relationship, you do so with the full knowledge that this might end in failure, pain, and suffering for both people involved. However, love as an emotion is so powerful that we do fall in love, nonetheless.
It’s fine if you have had your heart broken in the past and are still feeling its aftereffects. But it is important for the person you love now to be able to eliminate even the memories of the painful past, so that you can move on and embark on a loving, fulfilling relationship with someone new.
8. Relieving sexual frustration
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Irrespective of all stigma and biases, sex is a vital part of our lives, and when that urge and desire is left unsatisfied, there is a gaping void in your life that has to be effectively filled by the person you love. Most of the time, women are very giving in bed, without expecting too much in return. Although that may sound very noble in the beginning, it is important to find someone who will make you feel loved and wanted and beautiful, and satisfy you adequately at the same time.
9. A partner in crime
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Life is incomplete without a little fun, and breaking rules now and then has never hurt anyone. But what is the point of having fun when you have no one to share the experience with? When you are all alone, or when your friends are too busy or too different, then the desire to have fun and go on adventures takes a backseat, making your life dull again. But when you’re in love, your partner can be there with you when you are living life on your own terms.
10. The missing piece
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Often, people find themselves thinking aloud and saying that there is “something missing” in their lives. Most of the time, this ‘something’ is a ‘someone’ you can share your life with. You might have everything working for you, but this constant nagging desire at the back of your mind leaves a profound emotional void in your life.
When you meet someone and fall in love with them, something should click, giving you a sense of wholeness and completion, because they were the missing piece of the puzzle you were always searching for.
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Finding someone you can love and cherish is important for more than the standard reasons. No matter how content you were before your relationship, only having a loving and understanding partner can complete your existence. It is very important to find someone who will be able to fill up those gaps in your life without adding to them. That is when you will feel life is truly beautiful.
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