Dreams are a tricky bunch of visuals. Especially when you are dreaming about your ex, you can bet that it is not just some random visual – you are thinking about them somewhere in your consciousness. It could be very unconscious, and you might not even be thinking of them during the day anymore.
But it is normal.
The human mind works like that. When you fall asleep, you are in the subconscious mode which you have absolutely no control over. This part of the mind starts to work actively when you are tucked into bed and getting rest. The thoughts make their way to the front of your brain, and show up as dreams. They can be a way to understand what your inner self wants and thinks about a particular person or situation.
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Dreaming about an ex does not have anything to do with them. It is all you and you alone. Do not ever believe that there is some telepathic connection which is bringing you two close again. It is your mind and you have to deal with it without the ex actually becoming involved.
There are different dream scenarios that we are going to explore in this article, and we will explain to you what each of them mean. So, if you are desperately trying to figure out the answer to the question, Why do I keep dreaming about my ex? we might be of some help here.
Scenario #1 – You are just seeing your ex
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Dreaming of an ex doesn’t always mean harm. In fact, if you just see your ex in a dream, there is a good chance that there is someone in your current life that is reminding you of them, but you are trying to bury those thoughts. Again, it is not something you are doing consciously – but it is just happening in your mind and you cannot help it. It could be good or bad, happy or sad. But there is a strong possibility that it is happening.
All you need to do here is to stop pondering and look at the people that you are meeting and are making you feel the same way your ex did. If the feelings and the person are good – then you should be happy that the good qualities of your ex are present in this new person as well. If they are otherwise, then you really need to reconsider letting them get too close to you.
Scenario #2 – You and your ex are fighting
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Well this scenario is almost like the first one, but it gives you a little more to work with. If you are dreaming about your ex, and all you can see is fighting and brawling – there is probably someone in your life who is bringing out the same feelings in you. And these are not good feelings by any means. You definitely need to work on bettering the situation in your life, or else, this new person might also become an ex very soon!
Scenario #3 – Your ex is ignoring you
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This is your mind’s defense mechanism to get you to move on! Your ex might have ignored you while you were ending the relationship, or might have ignored all your calls and attempts to fix the relationship. You might have been able to preoccupy yourself with other things, but you definitely haven’t gotten around to accepting it completely. Your brain is just telling you to get out there and move on with life.
This is when you listen to your brain and move on because that is the best thing to do. And you will have to do this consciously.
Scenario #4 – You are hooking up with your ex!
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This is most common when you have just gotten into a new relationship, and this is one of the most misunderstood dreams of all. It is not that you miss your ex. As we said, dreaming of an ex is generally one of the most harmless things that can happen to you. When you dream of hooking up with an ex, your fear of embarking on a new journey is coming to the fore.
While you consciously know that you need it and it is one of the best things that can happen to you, but the mind is still looking for the comfort and familiarity that your ex provided. It is not always simple for the brain to move on, not because of the person themselves – but just the whole way of life. This is just one of those times.
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Scenario #5 – Your ex is missing you in your dreams
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No! This is not God’s secret way of letting you know that you need to make that call. Don’t you dare let this become the basis for the next drunk dial you make to your ex. This dream only means that you have moved on with your life. It means that you are able to put their pain (which is definitely a figment of your imagination) before your own. You have become the bigger person.
If you take it to be reality, and make that move – you are only going to find yourself in a regrettable situation where you do not even want to entertain your ex anymore.
Scenario #6 – You are missing your ex
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Well, this situation is a little tricky. This dream could mean that you miss the personality that your ex has and would like it if you found someone like them in the future. But if that personality was all good, then they wouldn’t really be your ex now, would they? This gets worse if you are dating someone else already.
Regardless of your current relationship status, you need to ensure that you try to get in touch with your inner self and understand what you want.
Scenario #7 – You are cheating on your current partner with your ex
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Here we have a situation. No, you do not love your ex more than you love your current partner. But you just haven’t gotten over the breakup with your ex yet. You are still dealing with the breakup. The same holds true for when your ex is sick in your dreams. Your mind is just letting you know that you are not ready for a relationship yet, and if you jump into one too soon, you are going to be in trouble.
Ensure that you are completely over your ex before you move on with your life.
Scenario #8 – You are hanging out like friends and talking
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Well, there is a little catch to this one. Here is when dreaming about your ex becomes a little bit harmful. This dream means that you two have unresolved issues that you are either trying to resolve in your mind, or you are just not trying to resolve at all. This happens to the people who do not get closure from their exes and they are still left hanging even after the relationship is over. Dreams about the ex’s families also have a similar interpretation.
There are two ways to get out of this situation. You either make that phone call to your ex to get the closure that you need or just ensure that you have reasoned it out well enough in your head so that you can move on from the relationship. If you are having these dreams often, then do not try to get into another relationship.
Scenario #9 – Your ex and your current partner are getting along
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Your mind is giving you a million alert signs about the person you are dating right now with this dream. Somewhere, deep down, you know that if you were not in the picture, and they met, they would definitely get along with each other. This is because they are the same as each other. This is when you really need to run a good check on what you have gotten yourself into after one bad experience.
If you seem to find too many similar traits, you have fallen in love with practically the same person with a different face. Think again about your relationship, buddy!
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Scenario #10 – Your ex is dead!!
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Fine! We get it that you had a bad breakup, and you never ever want to see their face again and there is no chance that you even remotely care about what they are up to in life. But dreaming about their death can be harsh. When your brain is showing you that your ex is dead, well – that means that your ex is as good as dead in your life. It essentially means that you are ready and roaring to get into a new romantic venture and give it your all without really having too much baggage to carry.
Now that we have explained the 10 most common scenarios about dreaming of an ex to you, we hope that you have gained some valuable insights. If you are the one dreaming about your ex, then you need to relax and try to understand what your subconscious is trying to tell you. If your partner is dreaming about their ex – then you need to be patient and wait for them to understand what they want.
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