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A Step-By-Step Guide On How To Keep Casual Hookups Fun n’ CASUAL

Women always tend to get the short end of the stick, when it comes to casual hookups. Women are often riddled with guilt, afraid of having made a mistake or scared that the society is right about them ‘giving it up’ to strangers and acting ‘slutty,’ coz who can control our ever-devious train of thought, right?

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But here’s the thing about divorcing the fun from casual hookups, ladies- they are ‘casual’ for a reason. You don’t have to rattle your brains about whether or not he shall call, whether you ruined your chances with somebody who is potential partner material- because what’s meant to be shall be. And what isn’t still gave you one night of oh-so-GOOD  time (or not)! 😛

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Either which way, casual hookups aren’t a bad thing- and you don’t have to do the walk of shame, coz there isn’t a thing to feel ashamed about. If men can wear the notches on their belt like proud studs, there’s no reason you have to wear the ‘sluts’ label for showing yourself a good time. So, forget that walk of shame- coz that, my friends, is a stride of pride. You had an orgasm (hopefully) and that’s GOOD- so, have fun (as long as you are keeping safe) and embrace your sexual urges for what they are.

I admit, our double-standard ridden society makes it more than twice as hard on us, but you do not have to grapple with any insecurities alone. We know it can be challenging to purge yourself of the guilt, but here’s a good place to start:

Don’t linger

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You have got sh*t to do, even if it means getting back home and curling in bed with a steaming cup of melted cocoa and a good book. What I mean, is get your sh*t together, but get to it first! Don’t wait around for him to decide what’s coming next. He doesn’t owe you French toast or scrambled eggs- do not try to turn this ‘casual’ hookup into something it isn’t.

Say NO to the walk of shame and stride-of-pride outta there

So, you can’t seem to find your jacket- just borrow his hoodie and get the f*ck outta there. A one night stand is no reason to be ashamed and you don’t need to sink into the plush back of an Uber, ashamed. So, own that sh*t and stride-of-pride outta there like you own the world. You had a good time and it should make you feel good! Even if it sucked, you cannot turn back time and undo the ‘oh-s’ that weren’t quite of the kinds you drunkenly signed up for, so slip into whatever makeshift outfit you can manage and peace the eff out!

Don’t escalate the awkwardness of the morning after

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If you spend the rest of the day dawdling, you are simply making it that much harder on yourself. Just get home, take a relaxing hot shower and get to your errands. I am sure you have a to-do list waiting for you and I am sure getting TO DO it shall take your mind off whatever happened! If ‘twas good, you can smile thinking about it, as you get your sh*t done…

Don’t get wasted, dwelling on it

Mimosas aren’t your friend, girl. If you do need to take the edge off, we say wear it off with half a Xanax- but do not aggravate the subsequent spiral of emotions by downing one glass after another. It won’t help- and we say it coz we’ve been there, done that. It does NOT help.

Don’t be an over thinker and go, chill

After you are done with that hot molten cocoa, of course! Just get some f*cking brunch with your girls and talk it out. Make fun of his thing or simply, spill out all the raunchy details. Then, head out shopping or do whatever it is that takes your mind off the culprit. That’s what girlfriends are for, anyway.

Do whatever the eff you feel like doing, even if it’s texting him

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So, you have done all you could and your fingers are still anxiously tapping the phone? Go ahead and pick that thing. Text him and thank him for the night. You are a smart, intelligent and empowered woman who owns her sexuality like she’s was always meant to- and there’s nothing wrong with wanting to tell someone you had a good time. Just do it the one time and call it a day. Do not drop emoji-ridden texts twenty times and be the crazy b*tch he’d go in hiding from. If he responds and things escalate from there, rad! If not, then he isn’t someone you’d want to know anyway.

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More often than not, every one night stand is going to be just what it is. A one night business. A person you chat up at the bar and end up f*cking later that night, only to say ‘boy, bye’ soon after isn’t going to turn boyfriend. And that’s okay AF. It may sound harsh and it may s*ck but it’s true. If you walk into casual hookups accepting their ‘casual’ nature and being comfortable with what’s going to pass, you are setting yourself up to not be let down. You are young and vibrant and alive- and you can do with some casual hookups making for a helluva round of drink-and-talk stories when you have got no need for them anymore!

You got this, babe!

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A Step-By-Step Guide On How To Keep Casual Hookups Fun n’ CASUAL
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Sejal Parikh

Sejal Parikh

"I'm a hurricane of words but YOU can choose the damage I do to you..."